6 signs that indicate that you are about to cheat on your partner

After years of happy relationship, no one wakes up one morning and thinks: “Today I’m going to cheat on my partner”. In a monogamous relationship the decision to cheat is actually made for the long term. Betrayal is almost always the result of a slow build up of unmet needs, resentments, and hurt feelings.

If you value your relationship, it’s good to be aware of seven signs that indicate that things are not going as well as you thought.

1. You never worked up the courage to reveal your secret desires

Maybe you’re afraid he’ll think you’re a sexual deviant or even make fun of some fantasy you’ve had for years. Either way, if you don’t feel comfortable talking about sex, something is wrong. And if ending the relationship doesn’t cross your mind, it’s probably because, deep down, you hide the desire to satisfy those needs with someone else. Communication is the key to every happy relationship. Sexual frustrations can lead to hurt feelings, resentments, and ultimately betrayal. Establish more open dialogue channels and lose the fear of revealing your desires.

2. You humiliate your partner to your friends

There’s a fine line between complaining to your friends about your boyfriend’s quirks and offending him to anyone who will listen. Exposing the partner negatively is not only a way of rejecting her trust, but also an unconscious appeal to receive approval from the group for a possible betrayal. The couple’s problems should be resolved in intimacy, through frank conversations and a lot of respect.

3. You are at an age where you end at nine

It sounds strange, but a study by the website AshleyMadison.com suggests that people are more likely to cheat during the year before they turn into a new decade. The men and women who registered on the site looking for extramarital affairs were mostly 29, 39, 49 and 59 years old. This is because people at these ages tend to reflect on the years that have passed and make plans to make the most of the next decade. Before getting involved in harmful relationships, make plans that involve your partner and transform – for the better – your next years.

4. You’ve been telling your partner little lies – and you handle it well

Little lies to protect your partner’s feelings are absolutely normal — and healthy for the relationship. The problem starts when these little lies are told to cover up situations. A study published in the Journal of Language and Social Psychology shows that people who tell white lies are more likely to cheat on their spouses. Avoid saying you were at a work dinner when, in fact, you were having dinner with that handsome co-worker who always hits on you. Sometimes it’s better to tell the truth and hurt your partner than to hurt them in the future with cheating.

5. You’ve often been working late with that hot co-worker.

Experts point out that the workplace is one of the main grounds for infidelity. If you value your relationship, try your best to stay away from any temptations. The main step is to be honest with yourself about your feelings and decide if approaching your colleague is really healthy.

6. You’ve started noticing all the things you hate about your partner

Finding faults in your partner is natural, but focusing on those faults is destructive to your relationship. This habit puts you at risk of comparing your partner to other potential partners. Furthermore, choosing to focus on your partner’s flaws puts you in a cycle of negativity: the more you look, the more you find. How about switching your focus and trying to see the qualities that make your partner attractive to you?