The Lovers: how to use the arcane to harmonize internal forces

The other day, a consultant who was reflecting on a relationship that went down the drain told me emphatically: “I protect my choices”. The phrase got to me. I had already thought about the question, but I had never heard the idea expressed in such a punctual way. And then I thought that the letter The Lovers it can bring us precious perceptions for greater harmonization in love relationships.

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Protect our choices? Yes. It takes us so long to decide between one thing and another, weigh pros and cons, face the oscillations of the scales… Leaving aside the known, comfortable path.

At other times, the option is more radical: either you change your life or you change your life. No way out: that which gives us absolute security is going to dance. There are no guarantees. You take a deep breath, lift your head and say: “I am going”. But where are you going?

And then the weighing process begins. Not infrequently, someone gets hurt. The dead and the wounded. Without effort there is no growth. And there are the sacrifices. Detachments. Things we don’t want to let go of. How to go forward without looking back? So it is. But there is no way. The decision needs to be made. And after that, there is only the future. Can’t go back.

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Protecting our choices: an act of love

Protect our choices. It’s fair, after the courage to put all the chips on the table. So much work cannot be thrown away just like a reverse gear on the first difficulty.

It is necessary to protect the calculated, reflected option, weighed in the scales that are not always balanced in life. The choice is free! And always ours. Ever. Anyone who says they didn’t have a choice, chose not to choose. But chose.

Protecting our option is an act of love. A matter of respect for yourself. It sucks to look in the mirror in the morning and see someone who doesn’t keep their word. And knowing that person is you.

It is also an act of love towards others — those who stayed in the past and those who are now part of our present. That is why it is so important to pay attention to the crossroads and to discern the new path with time and criteria.

Regrets: another point of view

Of course, from time to time, we regret it. Usually this happens when we let ourselves be pressured and decide without having enough time for a profound verdict. Or when our choice is intended to please someone other than ourselves. It’s hard to please Greeks and Trojans.

Every right choice requires centering. Sometimes we make mistakes. Then it’s better to put your tail between your legs and come back without too much drama. Wrong option. This talk of “I don’t regret anything I’ve done in my life” is bullshit. It’s just a phrase repeated without reflection.

In the history of mankind, we know, the error can lead to a great find. Penicillin, for example, was discovered because of Fleming’s vacillation, an unforeseen situation. That is, we can learn, and a lot, from the mistake. It is enough that we have openness to change the point of view. Where we look at an event in our lives makes all the difference.

At this point, it is also good to take into account that the concept of right and wrong is linked to our way of thinking, something built over years and with the support of the society in which we live. But is the “error” really an error? Is “right” really a certainty?

Ideally, we can choose without pressure, calmly, being able to take a “view” into the future and envision how our lives would be going down path A, down path B, or staying. Because staying, I insist, is also a choice.

See what you’re going to do at the next fork. Your well-being depends on this, your peace of mind in the future.

And after making the choice, protect your path, whether with flowers or stones. Protect the margins. Enclose the bricks. Water the roses. And hold tight in the hands of those who go along. No one lets go of anyone’s hand.

This is the message that Arcanum Six of the Tarot, The Loversbring to your life: protect your path by honoring your choices with centering and reflection.