Love yourself to be loved

“To love and to be loved.” This is a well-known phrase, but little realized. The human being is always wanting to be loved, accepted and adored by the other, without questioning whether he is internally ready for this relationship.

the feeling of love it is full of joy. We don’t love in pain, that’s for poets. Love is a precious feeling, which is inevitably accompanied by detachment and acceptance.

In relation to twothis feeling results in attention, affection, friendship and presence of both parties.

Presence is developing the habit of self knowledge. Accepting ourselves with all our qualities and defects, even so that we can change something if we feel the need.

Being living in the now, in love and respect for our being, transforms us into a person ready to love within a relationship.

Only in this way will we be fully happy, like in fairy tales. And this takes work! There is no magic wand, there is an act with determination and courage to tame the ego and the fantasies of the mind.

Depending on someone to be happy is the biggest trap ever invented by the ego. I hear a lot in the office, people of different ages, uncomfortable, wondering about being alone.

They resent not having a partner. But, reflect: being alone does not necessarily mean not having a partner. To be alone is to feel lonely, alone in a situation in life. You can feel lonely even next to the love of your life, simply because you are not taking care of yourself.

The other has no obligation and will never complete you. You are the one who must fulfill yourself completely in order to satisfy a partner. This is true love magic.

Taking care of yourself, loving yourself unconditionally will make you loved exactly as you want and need.

This idea that we are only fulfilled and fulfilled with a certain someone who will provide us with a beautiful and successful family in the near future is an idealization based on an untruth.

With the belief that one is only completely happy in a love relationship, it is already predetermined that we will be dependent on the other.

When we think like this, we limit our potential for achievements in various areas of our lives. Being anxious to find love can distance you from your goals.

After all, by ceasing to live in the present, in addition to not noticing what is happening around you, you can become involved in an idealization of the object to be conquered. There is no reality to it.

To really love someone, we have to love ourselves a lot first. I’m not talking about egoic love where we worship our body, our capabilities and talents with attachment. I’m talking about acceptance and respect. With that, you will be ready to be loved.

Being in love, try in every way to see the person who is by your side without idealizing them at any time. Deal only with what you have from the other.

It looks really cold, but it’s pretty safe. This will prevent you from handing over your power of achievement to anyone. In addition to seeing everything more clearly, it will show itself to the other without traps, which later on can make the difference between joy and suffering.

Keep in mind that happiness lives inside your heart, because you love yourself before anything else.