Don’t get married before asking yourself these 20 questions:

Are you about to say “yes”? We at Blog Me Apaixonei are going to share the questions you should ask yourself and answer honestly before you get to the altar.

Maybe you’ve been together a long time and are about to take a big step, or maybe you’ve just met your better half and you’re still having second thoughts about getting married.

Whatever your situation, a ‘check-up’ never hurts. Here are the 20 questions you should ask yourself before getting married:

1- Does your partner support you in your decisions?

Does your partner encourage you to improve day after day? And when you’re better than him, is he okay with that situation or is he more comfortable that you’re always down?

2- Do we really accept each other?

There will always be things you want to change about the people in your life, but no one should be in a relationship where they can’t be the way they originally are. If your partner doesn’t allow you to be yourself, it’s best to review your concepts.

3- Who am I?

How can you know if your partner will make a good husband/wife if you have no idea who you are?

4. Am I happy to be in this relationship?

The idea of ​​sharing a life together is not just finding someone to complete you or make you happy. But let’s be real: being unhappy in a marriage can complicate many other areas of your life… and fast. The question you have to ask yourself is whether you are happy today, while you are still not married.

5- Am I feeling trapped in this relationship?

Do you really want to be in this relationship most of the time or do you just can’t wait to end it all? Are you because you have no more options or are you because you love your partner?

6- What have I been doing to improve?

Has your relationship stagnated and you haven’t been doing anything or have you been looking for alternatives to improve every day?

7- Is my relationship balanced?

Do you feel that you both have the same goals in terms of commitment, care, support and sacrifice? Or is one of you doing the heavy lifting while the other just takes it with the belly?

8- Do we have fun together?

Do you have fun together or do you rarely go out to dinner, movies, parties, church…?

9- Are we dependent on each other?

Do you depend 100% on each other or can you manage on your own when you’re far away? This is an important factor to consider. Many people are so dependent on their partners that when they are alone they cannot do anything useful.

10- Why am I in this relationship?

Is it because you respect, love, trust and value the person you are with? Or because you’re afraid of ending up alone, worried about finances, or because you’ve built a relationship that you’re afraid to leave?

11- What goal should we achieve?

Living in the “now” is great, but eventually a relationship will need a goal or someone will end up disappointed.

12- Do I really trust my partner?

For some, the answer can be devastating. If you’re one of those, it’s time to ask why and how you can start building or rebuilding trust. Without it, there is no possibility of continuing a marriage.

13- Am I with a good person?

Knowing what you know about your partner today, would you say with all your words that you are with an honest, true and loving person?

14- Do I feel attracted to my partner?

Physical attraction is not the most important component in a relationship, but attraction is one of the factors that fuel love in a relationship.

15- Am I a parent or a partner?

Taking care of someone you love is totally necessary, but when you feel like you’re raising a boyfriend – or worse, a husband/wife – things get a little complicated.

16- Are we as a team?

Do you feel like you’re part of a loyal team that help each other, support each other, and show a close partnership (even when the other isn’t around)? Or is it each one for himself and God for all in your relationship?

17- Are we looking in the same direction?

Some couples avoid having conversations about religion, marriage, babies etc… because they think that somehow these things are not important at the moment. However, when they get married, they realize that these matters are as important as the day-to-day bills to pay.

18- Are we growing together?

As a human being and living on this earth, we all have the right to grow and develop, and create a fulfilling life for ourselves. Are you and your partner indulging in your passions (individual and shared) and growing as individuals, both professionally and socially?

19- Am I still in the same?

Being in love with someone shouldn’t require changing our identity to fit someone else’s idea of ​​who we should be, under any circumstances!

20- Do I have “fleas behind the ear”?

For some reason, do you sometimes feel like you have a flea behind your ear about your partner? Think about it!

SEE TOO:

The Differences Between “I Love You” and “I’m In Love With You”