There is not lack of time, there’s lack of interest

If anyone wants to, he’ll make time to be with you. If someone says they don’t have time, it’s because they don’t really want to or because they have other priorities. Don’t let them lie to you or deceive you. Anyone will always be able to reserve a space for someone they want to see, who they want to be with or who they care about: this is how affection and love work.

Attention should never be begged for. Wanting is power, and if someone really wants to be with you, he can be. Life is an accumulation of priorities and second choices. When we mentally classify our relationships into priorities or options, what we are actually doing is orienting ourselves according to the value we place on certain people. So keep your attention and if you see that someone is not valuing you as you deserve, don’t ask: begging for attention is something that certainly no one deserves to have to do.

If you are in this situation, where you feel that you give 100% of yourself for something that should be reciprocated and it is not, maybe it’s time to see that behind the lack of time there are made up excuses and little interest. It is often painful and disappointing, but it is healthier in the long run to resolve this imbalance than to continue to maintain it: at the end of the day, the coming together of two people is something where giving is rewarding but receiving is also necessary.

Also, if someone you include in your priorities without even doubting, started to leave you aside, it could be that something has happened but it could also be that person’s lack of interest: remember that liking someone has no calendar.

I learned that those who don’t look don’t miss you, and those who don’t miss you don’t like you. I learned that life decides who enters your life, but you decide who stays. I learned that the truth only hurts once and the lie hurts forever. So value those who value you, and don’t treat those who treat you as an option as a priority.

If someone wants to have you in their life, that same person will find a place for you without you having to fight for it.

You also have freedom of choice. Choose well who you want in your life and, when you do, it is likely that the best thing is to also think about who chose you to be part of their own life: value those who show they want to be by your side.

Cristina Trilce