When everything doesn’t matter to us

When we don’t care about everything… are we really indifferent to everything? Where to start? What to say? When everything doesn’t matter to you, you don’t think about anything and you think about everything. But… what is it to think about nothing? What is it to think about everything? What does it mean that everything has stopped caring? The concept is so broad that we don’t even know what to say, right? When we ask someone: “But what is it all about?“, they answer: “Well I don’t know, everything“.

Sometimes, We find ourselves at a point in our existence where we don’t know which direction to take. It is common to be immersed in a state in which everything really does not matter to us. What we liked, we no longer like. What entertained us now bores us. What is happening to us? Why has everything stopped giving us pleasure?

An inner void opens in our soul, the one that absorbs every gram of happiness that we can feel at some point. What’s going on?

When everything doesn’t matter to us

What does it mean to feel indifferent to everything? Or rather, what does it imply? Many times we sit on the couch and just watch our lives go by as if it were a movie. We go from the living room to the bathroom and from the bathroom to the living room. We go out shopping and cook so as not to starve. We carry out our daily activities almost by inertia, automatically. What is the reason for this reluctance? A state of unhappiness that surrounds us, embraces us and, little by little, squeezes us more and more.

Our plans go awry: friendship, economic, work, life… We scan the horizon in search of some light that gives us hope, but we don’t seem to find it. Who has extinguished the last ray of joy? Who has turned off the last lighthouse? We don’t know what is happening, but our life seems to be going downhill and without any possibility of stopping such a decline. Maybe in the silence we can begin to find the answers.

At these moments we don’t care if it rains, if it shines, if the wind blows away our house or if someone gives us a sermon. Our answer will probably be something like: “ah, well okay” and we will continue immersed in our world.

The attachment to the material and the spiritual will have hit rock bottom. Apathy invades our lives and our reaction to pleasant stimuli has almost disappeared: anhedonia has come into our lives.

What can we do when everything doesn’t matter to us?

Being lost in the middle of the sea without even seeing the flash of a light to illuminate our path can be exasperating. However, Not everything is lost. When everything doesn’t matter to us, on many occasions, we don’t even feel like asking for professional help, “so that? If I have no choice”, we think. But it’s not like that, We have more choice than we think.

The mind has acquired a series of thought patterns, throughout our learning history. These thoughts have made us believe that existence is a certain way. However, in the same way that we think that reality is black, we can also see it as white, blue, red or the color of the rainbow. Because there is no single color with which to see existence, they are all valid and the best thing is that we do not have to adopt a single point of view.

If we think that it is about choosing an ideology and sticking to it, we are very wrong. Life is too diverse to take a stand on one side. In this way, we will only be limiting ourselves.

At this point, it’s time to start thinking that our catastrophic view of the world is just that, our view… a learned belief. And what does this imply? That we can unlearn or, where appropriate, learn a new way to change our relationship with the world, with others and with ourselves.

Connect with our interior

When we are lost and everything doesn’t matter to us, It is time to ask ourselves if we are really leading the life we ​​would like. So, it’s time to sit down, reflect and think about what we want, what motivates us, what moves us. It can take us hours, days, weeks, months… Connecting with our interior through introspection will help us remove all those conditioning that prevent us from observing our authentic motivations.

Mindfulness is a very powerful tool that will undoubtedly help us discover a part of ourselves that we were completely unaware of. Through introspection, we will begin to leave behind foreign voices that tell us how we should be or what we should do. When we push those boundaries, we begin to discover the light that shines within us without distortion. We know, at that time, to what extent we were limited by external demands.

As His Holiness the Dalai Lama states, “Our conscious mind is related both to the objects we have had experience of in the past, and to certain types of feelings or sensations.. In this sense, it is very difficult to glimpse the true nature of consciousness, which corresponds to the pure state of knowledge or total luminosity of the mind..

To this end, the Dalai Lama assures that “One of the possible techniques to use to apprehend this state is meditation. With this, We free our mind from thoughts of past experiences and any form of anticipation of the future, to remain in the present moment”.

When everything interests us

When we connect with our authentic nature, we begin to observe our surroundings in a different color. The simple leaf of a tree seems to us to be a fascinating creation of nature. We focus our attention on breathing and question our complex body, full of elements: muscles, bones, arteries, neurons, etc.

Through meditation, we discover that what surrounds us is much more interesting than we thought. We are capable of being fascinated watching the simple flutter of a bird’s wings. What is hidden behind the flight of a bird?

As Zen Buddhist master Thich Nhat Hanh states: “Inner silence is essential to be able to hear the call of beauty and respond to it.. If there is no silence inside us – if our mind, our body, are full of noise – we will not answer the call of beauty.”. The teacher adds that “Our mind is full of noise, that’s why we can’t hear the call of life, the call of love.. Our heart is calling us, but we don’t hear it. We don’t have time to listen to it.”.

Little by little, we will appreciate small vital details that previously seemed insignificant to us. In this way, we will also begin to realize what really motivates us. Self-realization will become an important factor.

We will know that being good people, dedicating ourselves to others and not harming anyone are such deep values ​​that we will make them our own. With these reviews, our life will take a completely different direction. So remember, When everything doesn’t matter to us, it’s time to move because everything changes.

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