We lose many things for fear of losing

Sometimes, The fear of losing invades us and immerses us in its atmosphere. And so, trapped by it, everything around us looks different, becomes cloudy. As if we were wearing foggy glasses and our vision was stained by small or large specks.

They are the stains of assumptions, of our “what ifs…”, “maybes…” or our shoulds… often placing themselves as obstacles in our path. How many times have we not moved forward because of it? How many things have we lost for fear of losing?

Feeding our fears, it traps us

Happens that Sometimes, the handkerchief we use to wipe off those specks of fear, instead of removing them, makes us dirtier and dirtier.. Well, the solution, strategy or alternative that we have chosen, instead of appeasing our fear, feeds it and makes it stronger.

Like when you tell someone who is angry to calm down and their anger increases at times or when we tell ourselves not to think about what they did to us or the situation that worries us and in the end we end up increasing our degree of worry even more. .

Fighting fear wears us down

Other times, it seems that we fight against fear… we fight and fight against it, in a thousand and one different ways, but almost all of them lead us to defeat and wear and tear. Because fear, rather than hitting it, is necessary to understand and accept it, to discover what is happening to us.

And, sometimes, it is the fear of fear itself that traps us and we are left with the stains of expectations and assumptions; imagining an uncertain future, but so alive for us in those moments, that it is scary… and that is when we begin to lose things, people or experiences for fear of losing them…

The consequences of fear of losing

Because of fear of losing, you have been able to change your choices. Out of fear of losing, you have been able to stay where you are and settle; For fear of losing, instead of taking risks, you have stayed in the safety of what is known… for fear of losing, you have chosen silence instead of words; Out of fear of losing, you have done so many things to avoid losing something or someone, which sometimes have been the exact conditions that have caused it or have even made you lose your goals…

Note that Fear arises from the unknown, from the belief that we cannot control something, someone or ourselves.

Our fear is just a sign that tells us that something is happening inside us, but we must not let ourselves be defeated by it. It is a projection of the future, it is the power of our imagination at work, anticipating situations and our experiences, surely because once it did not happen as we expected.

The fear of losing is located in a future that does not exist and that we only give strength to from our mind., making it impossible to achieve our dreams and losing the infinite possibilities. This situation entails a life full of losses, of all those that we do not try, missing out on life itself, since it only happens in the present, with the future being a mystery.

I do not assure you that you will not have losses, that is impossible, but you will have learned to live even in spite of them, to fight for what you want and most importantly, not to betray yourself. Otherwise, how much are you willing to continue losing?

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