Self love: what it is and how to use it in challenging times

As challenging as the current times are, we have to admit that what we need is paths of peace. We are thirsty for self-love, tranquility and inner silence, true hugs, loving smiles, empathy.

When we are in deep pain, what we need is caress, self-care, the loving gaze of loved ones telling us that everything will be fine.

And then I take a little step back and remember the words of Jesus: “love your neighbor as yourself”. I understood that this love begins with “oneself”. We also need us.

It sounds obvious, but it’s not. Often, our tendency is to avoid unpleasant feelings and situations. As my friend and mentor Paula Abreu says, “everything is fine”. Come with me:

We have our personal challenges: it is often members of our family who make us lose our balance or else some illness or psychological trauma. It could also be that you are in a moment of deep anxiety or depression and looking for answers.

The challenges are also professional: no matter how much it is in your purpose, there is always some problem or frustration to face.

If you are not, the anguish may come from “not knowing” what you came to do in this world or you simply find yourself in a situation of exploitation or with a feeling of wasting time, having to work eight hours a day five times a week with something that just doesn’t make sense to you.

In addition, we are faced daily with the challenges of the world: environmental, political, economic, social and that affect us directly and indirectly.

It’s a lot to handle at once, isn’t it? Yeah, I know.

Self-love is foster care

At these times, I feel that our first reaction may be to need support from other people, but before even looking outside, I invite you to look inside so that you can first welcome yourself, calm down, give yourself a hug, give yourself love. , anyway.

There’s a reason Jesus emphasized the importance of self-love: you can only give what you have. The more we love ourselves, the more we will be able to love and love is the purest energy in the world. The self-love equation sounds simple, but it’s not. Why?

We were taught to judge ourselves, to criticize ourselves, to not feel worthy, but the good news is that we can change that and, for that, an inner yes is enough.

How to practice self love

I share with you four things that I do for myself and that have supported me in a revolutionary way:

Take in. Accept that you have pains, frustrations, voids, fears. No one escapes feeling these things on the planet. Don’t judge yourself, don’t criticize yourself. If you notice critical voices within you, place yourself as a distant observer and know: this fierce judge is not you. It’s just a part of you needing love. Send light to that part. Once you identify these emotions, look at them and see what they want to tell you. Distressing emotions carry with them certain answers to our questions. Imagine a golden light coming out of your heart. This light spreads throughout your entire body and you see yourself completely in the golden color vibration, which is of high spiritual elevation. Finish this exercise in high vibration.

These four little steps can open extraordinary portals in our lives and help us untie knots and release old blockages. It takes courage and a dose of self-love.

In my work as a Journeys of Self-Transformation facilitator, I see many people reach deep places within themselves with these things that seem – and are! – so simple.

What I want is for you to find your peace. Your affection for you. The potency of your love within you.

And that, at the same time, find all the support you want. Thus, it is easier to understand and overcome the personal, professional and world challenges.

First, embrace yourself. You will be amazed at the very power you possess.