There are moments that ignoring is responding with intelligence

Sometimes ignoring is responding with intelligence. It is a wisdom that is acquired with time and experience and that, without a shadow of a doubt, is adaptive. Because? Because it’s well known that our relationships don’t always bring positive things, even if we want it and that’s what we want.

Therefore, sometimes ignoring is more a matter of emotional health and protecting our mental balance than a conscious and thoughtful decision about our fulfillment and our way of seeing relationships with certain people.

We usually don’t easily realize that we feed toxic exchanges in favor of an emotional reward that won’t come. Ie, we sacrifice our well-being for insane relationships that hurt us.

You have to learn to ignore to start living peacefully.

We must ignore situations that disturb us and giving gifts with our absence when our presence is not valued. So for silly words, smart ears. But when?

• When Criticism Isn’t Constructive and we haven’t asked for an opinion.
• When we realize that in the attitudes or comments of others there are bad intentions.
• When those who are by our side strive to create insecurity and frustration in our vital schemes.
• When they make we worry about things we cannot control.
• When others go too far by exalting themselves with the clear intention of rubbing off their successes and belittling us.
• When they stop us from growing and develop as a consequence of the interests or selfishness of others.

Pay no attention to what is intended to nullify you

Words, comments, attitudes, feelings, emotions… There are situations that, either because of their hostility or their toxicity, can be extremely harmful. Sometimes it can even be that the emotional scales tip and that suffering is inevitable.

However, we need to be able to manage the distances, give our minds and bodies the opportunity to let off steam. We can escape if we work on our inner dialogue.

Forgiveness to People’s “High Tone”

It’s hard to forgive words that hurt and are said in moments of anger. There are even moments of euphoria that make our tongue lose control and that end up having terrible consequences.

The tale in which a father asks his son, faced with his incredulity, is well known to drive steel spikes into a piece of precious and smooth wood, because he needs to teach him something. The father patiently waits for the boy to finish the task, then makes him remove each of the ends and then expresses the moral of the story.

The board will never return to its original state despite the attempt to repair the damage and take out the small steel-tipped daggers. Therefore it is critical to make an effort to avoid causing pain to others with our bad attitudes or behavior.

We need to be careful with forgiveness and make it very clear that the fact of offering it does not entitle anyone to harm us again. It is important to reinforce this because we are usually “bad used to it” and we injure by mere carelessness.

Also we need to know how to forgive ourselves when we cause discomfort, conflict and pain to those we love. We must recognize our mistakes and accept what we cannot change and what we can, learn from differences and live without regret, guilt and hatred.

When we don’t forgive, joy and peace disappear from our lives. and we become slaves to rancor and bad feelings, getting upset easily and potentiating rivalries. One thing we can certainly escape if we dare to ignore it and forgive when it comes to that.