How to Say Hello to a Girl by Text Message and Get a Date –

If you gathered enough courage and dared to ask the girl you like for her phone number, but you’re terrified because you have no idea how to talk to her, you’ve come to the right place!

Text messages are very useful for starting a relationship and getting a girl’s attention. But if you want to be successful, you must follow some tips to take advantage of your opportunity. We tell you how to greet a woman via text message without looking desperate.

How to greet a woman via text message

Text messages have become one of the most common forms of communication. We all have a cell phone and we live through them. However, many still feel intimidated when socializing and using messages to get girls’ attention.

Talking to a girl you like, in person or on the phone, is not as easy as it seems. It is normal that you feel nervous and that is why you need support to know how to start a conversation.

Text messages are ideal because they quickly and accurately allow you to talk to that girl without pressure. You have more time to think about what you say and you can react in a better way. How to start? We leave you some tips to take your first steps:

1. Ask them directly for their phone number if you don’t have it and the message is through a social network

My advice is to never get his number through a mutual friend.

When you directly ask for her phone number, you can tell if the girl is comfortable with the idea of ​​you texting her. This gesture also shows that you are determined and confident. Girls are attracted to confident men.

2. What you should say in your first text message

The first message says a lot about you. If after “Hello” you use a diminutive like “beautiful, princess, love, heart”, that girl may consider that you are flirting when she just starts the conversation.

Instead of rushing ahead, start with a simple greeting. “Hi I’m Alex. How did it go?”. She shows your interest, without flirting or messages that could make her doubt your intentions before even getting to know each other better.

Also read our guide on why he seeks you out if he doesn’t want anything to do with you: 10 ways to read his mixed messages

3. Don’t always be flirtatious with her

You don’t need to flirt all the time to let her know that you are interested in her. You can be attentive, pay attention to what he tells you, ask him about his daily life and talk about many different topics to gain his interest.

If you flirt too much, it will seem that way to everyone. The girl you like most likely wants to be with someone who can share interests and experiences, not just compliments.

4. Find out what their interests are

Take advantage of the conversation to get to know her better. Ask him what he likes to do in his free time, discover his interests, the books he likes to read, the movies that catch his attention.

Also share your own activities, tell them about what you enjoy doing and what you want to learn. The more you talk, the more you will find common ground and shared interests that will allow your conversation to flow better and bring you closer.

5. Make her laugh

For a girl it is always important to talk to someone who makes her laugh and have a good time distracted from problems. A sense of humor is, without a doubt, a great attraction in any man.

If you’re a funny guy, use that to your advantage! Keep a fun and lighthearted tone, make light jokes that flow naturally. This will make the conversation more enjoyable and easier to carry on.

Don’t force humor into the conversation and remember to stay serious when talking about important topics.

6. Use emojis

Using emojis gives a fun, lighter tone to the conversation. When you say hello, you can use a happy face to qualify your message and show that you are happy to talk to her.

Emojis are also useful because they help make sense of messages. When speaking in writing, what is written can be interpreted in the wrong way, so using an emoji helps to provide context and lower or raise the tone of a text according to what you want to express.

Remember to use them with measure. You don’t want to sound like a teenager who uses emojis with every word.

7. Send him a photo

A good way to surprise her is by sending her a photo to start the conversation. It doesn’t have to be a selfie necessarily, show him part of your world, what you are doing or how your day to day life is going.

If you are cooking, show him the dish you are preparing. If you went out to a concert, send them a picture of the artist. This will show him that you are really interested in him being part of your life, in all its aspects.

You will also give him the confidence to also send you photographs and show you what he does and enjoys in his daily life.

8. Make sure you read very well what she writes to you

Pay attention to her conversations, the things she confides in you, her interests and fears. Show her that you care about what she thinks and what she has to say.

If she asks you things about your life, it means that she is interested in you too. Trust her and also tell her things about yourself. This is how you can get to know each other, get closer and gradually build intimacy.

Also read our guide on messages to conquer

9. After the first message…

Send him messages from time to time, always keeping in mind that you both might be busy doing other activities, such as working, studying, or hanging out with family and friends.

Don’t expect them to be able to talk all day, all the time. They both have lives of their own and if you write to him at all hours, from early in the morning and always make yourself available, it will seem that you are desperate. That’s not attractive. You can bore or scare her with that attitude.

10. When to start using diminutives with a girl

There is no exact rule for when you can start calling the girl you like nicknames. That will depend on your conversations, the connection you have, and the trust you develop.

Many times little jokes or a common topic can create a nickname between the two. If you think you are confident enough and it doesn’t bother her, you can use sweet words to refer to her. “My love, princess, heart or baby,” are some examples.

Don’t use the same words with her as other girls, you could get confused. Plus, if she finds out, she might feel like she’s not special to you.

11. Ask him how his day went

One of the best ways to show interest in a girl is also a simple greeting: “How was your day?”

Asking her about her day is a way to express your interest, start a conversation, and it’s also an opportunity to support her or give her advice if she’s going through a bad time.

How to know if a girl is not interested in you?

Knowing if a girl doesn’t want to talk to you is relatively easy to figure out if you pay attention to her attitude. These are some of the signs that show if that girl you like is not interested in you:

to. If you write to him, he ignores your messages, does not respond or does so very late and with poorly elaborated responses.

b. When you send her a nice message or tell her something that’s important to you, she responds with short texts like “ok, well, okay.”

c. If a girl shows no interest in knowing about you, she doesn’t ask you about your daily life or your interests, then she doesn’t like you or you are doing something wrong.

d. If you’re the one who always initiates the conversation and she doesn’t make the effort to start or follow through, then chances are she’s not really interested in you. In an extreme case, she may be very shy.

Sometimes men say that it is very difficult to understand women, but the truth is that if you show a little interest, are gentlemanly, respectful and attentive, you have already gained most of the ground.

Don’t feel limited when a girl shows her interest in getting to know you. Dare to write to her and get to know her better through her conversations.

After having given you these tips on how to greet a woman by text message, don’t just stop at words. Show your interest by inviting her out to a nice place where you can get to know each other better.

And how do you start conversations with girls? Tell us in the comments box or share your tips and our article on your social networks.

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