How do you react to a compliment?

Hi! Glad you’re here! Thank you for your presence! And yes, I knew you would come! Sooner or later. Yes, you! Yourself!

Did you know that you are an amazing person, full of qualities and gifts? Did you know that your smile is capable of cheering up a crowd of grumpy people on a Monday morning? Did you know that your eyes and your look are capable of conveying a message that can save the days (or lives) of others? Did you know that your hug is all that anyone in the world needs, to have the strength and courage to move on?

You must be wondering how I know who you are. And if you want to know the truth, I don’t. But I know that you deserve a lot of praisebecause you certainly have a lot of virtues and a lot of determination, to be here and be able to stay in this world.

How do you feel now, knowing that you are special and that like me, there are other people grateful for your existence? Can you handle the importance of being yourself?

Stop belittling yourself and assume your qualities!

I like to praise people, I have the habit of highlighting the qualities and positive points of each person I live with. And that’s what made me write this text: the reaction of most of them.

Many people don’t know how to receive a compliment. They don’t know what to do with it. They don’t know how to act, they get “embarrassed”, and often, they automatically respond with something that may come to belittle them.

Maybe it’s because we live in a world that tries, all the time, to put us down, rubbing in our face how much we are not as beautiful, as cheerful, as fabulous, as smart, as successful as we should be. Maybe it’s because we’re self-critical too much, or simply because there is a false humility in belittling ourselves.

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Many people find it strange when someone, upon receiving a compliment, accepts and agrees with the person who praised him, recognizing a positive point, some characteristic, or some quality of his own.

And just as there is false humility in belittling yourself, there is also false arrogance in recognizing your qualities.

Recognizing that you’re good at something doesn’t make you arrogant., makes you victorious. It makes all the sacrifice, all the effort and all the struggle worth it.

Recognizing that you have physical features that are attractive and beautiful doesn’t make you feel like Gisele Bündchen or David Beckham, it just shows that you recognize your particular beauty, that you can look at yourself with loving eyes and that despite not being the miss or mister universe, you have your charm. Your beauty. Its positive and beautiful features (especially for your eyes, from your angle).

I remember one episode when someone said that my eyes were beautiful. The compliment was this: “you have very beautiful eyes, you know? One of the most beautiful I’ve ever seen.” I thanked him for the compliment and responded sincerely, saying, “Yes, I knew. They are the same. Thanks.” The person widened his eyes and made a strange face, almost a grimace, and called me “convinced”. I took it as a joke and said: “I was convinced”.

I remember asking myself this day, if I acted ugly or if I was somehow arrogant. I came to the conclusion that no, I wasn’t (although I believe the other person judged in such a way, by his reaction).

It would be hypocritical for me to say that I don’t agree, because yes, I also think my eyes are beautiful. It would also be hypocritical for me to pretend to be surprised, because I hear it pretty much every day of my life. From different people. And then, from the alternatives I had, take on the beauty of my eyes, was the only non-hypocritical hypothesis.

Assume your qualities! See yourself with love and admiration. Receive the compliments in a loving way and rejoice your heart! You are responsible for your qualities! You are very valuable!

Praise more! Recognize the value of the other!

How many sincere compliments do you get and how much criticism? Have you ever stopped to count? At home, with friends, at work?

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Have you ever had that feeling, that when you do everything right, no one sees and recognizes it, but when you do a single thing wrong, no matter how trivial, the whole world falls on you? I already. Oftentimes.

The fact is that we do not have (and will never have) control over each other. All we can do is change ourselves.

We can change how we feel, how we see ourselves, what we value (in ourselves and in others) and the way we deal with our qualities.

We must recognize our qualities, and let go of our defects. Because they are not the ones who dictate who we are. We are more than our faults.

How many times do you recognize the value of the otherinstead of seeing only your mistakes or your flaws? how many times do you praise and focus on the good things, instead of just criticizing and highlighting the negative points and defects?

Recognizing the value of the other implies being someone of value!

People who only judge and vent their frustration on the other, with barrages of criticism and discontent, are probably not well with themselves. Belittling the other can show envy, insecurity, and even lack of self-love.

The success of the other cannot be a personal insultwe need to recognize the value of others, without it interfering with our own ego and without making absurd comparisons and feeling threatened by it.

We see in the other what already exists in us. If you are an ugly looking person, the ugliness is in you, in your eyes and in your heart. See beauty and become beautiful. Spread beauty wherever you go!

Praise more!

PS: Has anyone ever told you that you are special today? <3

Jóice Bruxel – Psychologist in Curitiba – CRP 08/25350

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