Did you know that ten to fifteen percent of children are raised by men who think they are the biological fathers, but are not?
In an era marked by birth control, legal abortion and the fact that only a percentage of unprotected relationships end in pregnancy.
We can imagine the enormous number of extramarital relationships that there must be for the percentage of non-legitimate children to be so high.
Furthermore, we cannot blindly trust statistics, because few people admit to having been unfaithful, but from what we can deduce, at least half of people have cheated or would cheat if they had the chance.
How can you tell if your girlfriend, wife or partner is being loyal to you? We are going to tell you what are the most common signs that she is cheating with someone else.
1.- Stop worrying about your behavior
Women are programmed to care about the smallest details about their man and the relationship they have with him. They really care how many times you call them and how much time you spend with them.
They get intensely angry if you forget a date that they consider special and they make big dramas about it. But when a woman is in the middle of an affair, usually the first thing she stops caring about is all that because she has all of her emotional energy concentrated on someone else.
So before you rejoice that she is no longer putting so much pressure on you, it would be good to start probing what the real reason is for her to relax a little.
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2.- They change their appearance
When you were first dating, your girl probably always tried her best to look amazing when she was with you. But after a couple of months or years of a stable relationship, she probably began to relax that aspect of her a little and no longer cared much if you saw her in sports clothes. That is normal and happens to all of us, men and women.
But if you suddenly start to notice that she shaves and goes to the beauty salon and the gym much more frequently, you can be almost sure that it is not due to a spontaneous burst of motivation to look good for you or for herself. .
There is usually a third party involved. Therefore, paying real attention to the way your wife usually gets ready to go see friends, for example, can give you important clues when that begins to change.
3.- Sexy underwear
When a woman becomes sexually involved with a new person, it is very common for her to try to look more seductive by wearing provocative lingerie.
To be frank, thongs and lace bras are anything but comfortable and most women would prefer to wear simpler things unless they have a very good reason to undress in front of someone else.
But it’s not just about underwear. A woman who begins a season of sensuality will always try to look more attractive.
Maybe you’ll start wearing more perfume, or let your hair down, put on a little more makeup, or wear slightly tighter clothing. All those things that require motivation and confidence.
4.- Stop caring about commitment
Most women are eager to establish a relationship with a man who wants to commit for life.
Even if it is subtle, they will give their boyfriend clues as to when the right time is for things to get more serious and generally these attempts will increase.
But when they’re having an affair, they’re not so sure which one of them they want to stay with long-term, so before they keep pushing for a commitment to you, they’ll explore the emotional possibilities of their other relationship, no matter how impossible it may be. be.
5.- He is not interested in sleeping with you
In a relationship, couples build their intimacy mostly by having sex.
If your girl’s interest or urge to have sex with you suddenly fades, it’s because she’s already getting what she needs sexually from another man, or because she’s already resigned herself to the fact that she’s not going to get it from you. Either scenario is worrying.
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6.- She is always very busy
Can you show up unexpectedly after work and take her to dinner without having to make an appointment in your diary? Does she welcome these surprises, or does she seem upset and full of excuses not to go out with you if she doesn’t plan to?
Some people truly can’t spare an hour from their busy schedules, but if your girlfriend used to be a person with a normal workload and out of nowhere a thousand urgent excuses appear, it may just be a cover for going and spending time with another man. .
Unless there is a good reason, such as a job change or promotion, something is clearly not normal.
Plus, women are almost always willing to postpone one or another commitment when we show interest and express that we want to spend time with them, unless they are cheating on you.
7.- They begin to have a secret agenda
The moment your girl stops being open about what’s on her agenda for the week is the moment to start worrying.
Most women are happy to give minute details of everything they did or plan to do that week. But when that turns into evasions and generic answers, maybe it’s because they’re trying to hide something.
8.- Need more privacy
Generally, a girl with a clear conscience won’t have any problem leaving her phone unlocked near you. Unless you’re a cellopath who gets in trouble for any greeting from an innocent friend.
But if that’s not the case, and he suddenly starts actively preventing you from seeing his messages or having access to his phone, it’s because he doesn’t want you to know about something.
Privacy is an important issue in everyone’s life, but normally we give our partner more and more access to our private life, and not the other way around.
9.- Avoid questions
If your girlfriend or partner is avoiding answering the simplest questions you ask about her day, there’s a good chance she’s hiding something from you.
Avoiding questions is a clear indication that you are avoiding having to tell a lie. She may even act defensive if you continue to insist.
10.- Act defensively
If a woman is cheating on you, she is obviously going to be afraid of being caught. Because of this, she may act defensively and take anything you say or ask as an accusation.
You can tell he’s probably cheating on you if he’s especially defensive about questions about who he spends his time with.
11.- Spend less time with your family and friends
If a woman begins to obviously disengage from your family, it is very likely that she is cheating on you. Some women will stop having any close relationship with your family or friends because they feel too guilty living with them.
12.- They get upset frequently
Women who are having a passionate affair tend to distance themselves from the normal way of communicating with their partners and begin to get upset about everything.
This may be because they are internally comparing you to their shiny lover, in whom they see no flaws, or because they want to project blame onto you.
13.- New friends appear out of nowhere
If your girlfriend suddenly starts meeting “new friends” with whom she spends most of her time, and also always seems happy and excited without you having made any radical changes in your behavior, those friends may translate into a only lover.
It doesn’t matter if it’s your yoga buddy or a colleague at the office. Women often feel friendship before they feel desire and since they don’t have a relationship yet, at first they even tell you about that person they like so much.
But when it becomes a love affair, they know that you are already alert and can avoid talking about that person at all costs. So if he spends a week talking about how nice his new painting teacher is and the next week he doesn’t even mention it to you, you should find out why.
14.- Wants more independence
Women love to feel cared for and pampered, and although they can do things perfectly by themselves, they will always prefer that their partner help them change a tire, accompany them to the supermarket or pick them up to work.
If your girl suddenly seems to want to do all of this alone, you should look deeper into what’s causing her sudden desire for independence.
15.- She seems distracted
Women are good at paying attention, especially to their partners. If suddenly you are talking to her about something important and she doesn’t let go of her phone or simply doesn’t follow the thread of the conversation, there is definitely something more important on her mind.
And few things are more important for women than paying attention to their boyfriend, but continuing to talk or think about someone who makes them feel in love or sensual again is one of them.
Pay close attention to their answers. Men are not as observant, and to us, displays of genuine interest and automatic responses to make it seem like they are paying attention to us can seem like the same thing. Again, this is why it is important to know your girl thoroughly.
These are all very clear signs that your partner is cheating on you or is about to. If there is no third party involved, these are also signs that the relationship is not going well, so you should be concerned anyway.
Don’t let them go or blame them on the fact that women “are unpredictable.” If you meet your partner and you feel like something isn’t right, it’s probably because it isn’t.
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