20 ways to be cooler (and what you shouldn’t do) –

What does it really mean to be cool? How to know if you’re already cool and how to look even cooler? Why do surfers, rock stars, athletes, actors and race car drivers come to mind when we think of the word cool?

What makes these people cool? How come everyone likes these people? We all ask ourselves these questions.

For many people, most likely for you too, it is essential to be the “cool kid” since this makes you more popular and feels very good.

Wanting to be cool usually starts when we enter high school and in most cases, this desire stays with us for the rest of our lives.

We want people to see us and say, “Wow, that person is really cool.” We want people to want to be with us because of that. We want to be liked and be more attractive by being very cool.

For these reasons we begin to change our behavior, we begin to act and say things that according to us make us cooler. We think that this way people will like us more.

But this is usually counterproductive. What used to be cool in high school is no longer cool when you’re an adult. That’s why instead of looking cool, you look ridiculous and don’t have the desired effect.

So now that we’re adults, what makes us cool? How can we make others like us more without seeming like we’re seeking attention? Here we present some tips to resolve these doubts.

Things that don’t make you cool

Let’s start with aspects that will never make you a cool person. These attitudes will not make you more popular and they will certainly under no circumstances make people like you.

1.- Make fun of others, humiliate them or put them in an uncomfortable situation.

Doing any of these things is terrible not only for the other person, but for you too. It’s the opposite of being cool. This will only create a reputation for being immature, insensitive and childish, and no one likes being with people like that. It’s not how a cool adult should behave.

2.- Wanting to impress others by showing off.

This will never make you look cool, but it will surely create a reputation for you as someone who is desperate for attention. Very few people like to be around someone who only wants others to pay attention to them.

On the other hand, many times when you show off things go wrong and everyone will laugh at you and you won’t feel cool at all. Showing off is something you should avoid.

3.- Wanting to look better or more important than others.

Doing this will only cause people to think that you have low self-esteem, or that you believe that you are better or superior than others. No one will think you’re cool or awesome, and many will avoid your company.

4.- Cry, complain and criticize all the time.

It’s not cool at all for people to say things that don’t contribute anything. People who don’t stop complaining are the most frustrating thing there is.

You probably know someone like this, and most likely you don’t like spending time with this person. The only thing you will do by doing this is drive people away.

5.- Be negative and pessimistic.

Stop spreading bad vibes! If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything. The more quiet you are, the prettier you are. Before speaking he thinks if it is something good, if it contributes something and if it is interesting.

Negative and pessimistic comments should be like static on the radio, you should skip past them until you get to something you want to hear.

6.- Wanting to seem like a tough person.

Possibly this worked perfectly at school, where the tough and bullies They are the best. However, in adult life, this is very frowned upon.

7.- Wear sunglasses when you are indoors.

This is unnecessary and, admit it, it looks ridiculous. Everyone will laugh at you and you will make a bad impression.

8.- Speak exaggeratedly loudly on the phone so that everyone finds out and turns to look at you.

This may seem absurd to you, you may think that you don’t do it. But if you pay attention when you are in the supermarket, on the street or in a shopping center, you will realize that it happens more often than you think and that you probably do it too.

This just creates an awkward moment for everyone around that person.

9.- Leaning against a wall at a party or at the bar trying to look interesting.

Nobody will come up to talk to you, nobody will be interested in you. This does not help your image at all, therefore it does not make you cool. You have to socialize.

10.- Wave your money and your keys so that everyone can see them and be impressed.

You’ve most likely seen someone do this, and you know it looks ridiculous and does nothing to impress anyone.

11.- Tell everyone how much your clothes cost or what brand they are.

Believe me, no one will think better of you because your clothes are more expensive or because they are brand name. You’re not going to make new friends because of the cost of your clothes, no one cares to know that.

12.- Tell people how much everyone loves you and how many friends you have.

This will only make you seem overly conceited and will not increase their affection for you. If anything, his aversion.

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13.- Being rude, disrespectful or bad vibes without any reason.

There is no reason why you should be rude, especially if others haven’t done anything wrong to you. That’s the opposite of being cool.

14.- Being mean to someone who likes you.

It’s one thing to want to put distance between yourself and these people because they’re hurting you, and another to be rude for no reason. By doing this you don’t show any class.

15.- Talk only about yourself and talk non-stop.

People dislike people who talk and talk without giving them a chance to say something. On the other hand, this only causes others to lose interest much faster.

16.- Do the same as everyone else to fit in.

We all have someone in our lives who does this. Someone who buys everything that is fashionable, who buys the latest cell phone, who goes to the trendy places. Being like everyone else is not cool at all, it’s boring.

17.- Being an insufferable “know-it-all” with whom you cannot talk.

This is the kind of person we all hate having a conversation with.

He is the typical person who is always correcting others and is constantly trying to prove himself right, even if he is wrong. He always knows everything, has done everything and seen everything.

Have you done any of these things?

If in fact you have had any of these attitudes, it is time for you to change those bad habits. These acts are not attractive and definitely not cool at all. If you continue like this you won’t be able to please anyone.

You must work hard, change these terrible habits, develop greater self-awareness. You will see that as you improve your behavior, your social life will improve significantly and you will be much cooler.

How to be cooler?

Now you know what doesn’t allow you to be cool and you’re probably wondering what you should do to be cool. Below is the list of things you can do to become cooler.

1) Don’t let what others think of you affect you.

This is something of utmost importance. When you let what others think of you affect you, you stop being yourself and start doing the same thing as everyone else. By not letting yourself be influenced by the opinions of others, you become original and therefore cooler.

2) Not needing the approval of others.

Being cool means that you don’t require the approval of others. You don’t need others to agree with what you do and what you think.

The only approval you need is yours. You can do what you want and go where you want without needing someone else to agree.

3) Always be calm or relaxed no matter the situation.

Cool people tend to stay calm even in the most impossible situations. That’s why we think superstars and athletes are so cool. They always look relaxed and this makes them amazing.

4) Not being needy.

Build a life where you don’t need anything else, physically or emotionally. If you take care of yourself, you will never need other people’s care and you will always be fine.

5) Don’t focus too much on looking cool.

You don’t want to appear rude or a rebel, you will only look absurd and you will not be able to cause any positive effect. You’re either cool or you’re not, and if you have to push it too hard, you probably aren’t.

6) Have your life in order: your relationships, hobbies and your work.

Having mental and emotional control of your life is the coolest thing. Work on improving all aspects of your life.

7) Be kind and friendly to everyone.

Treat everyone as equals and treat them how you want to be treated. Treating those who are in a more privileged situation than you better only creates a bad impression.

You can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat those who are in a less privileged situation than themselves.

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8) Be more fun.

If you really don’t know how to be funnier, hang out with people who are fun and learn from them. You can also improve by watching more comedy shows or searching for jokes online.

9) Be a good conversationalist, listen to others and make them feel important.

You have to learn not to talk so much about yourself, not to think about what you are going to say next and just flow with the conversation.

Enjoy the moment and live it. Really try to understand what other people are telling you. Focus on others and ask them questions about themselves. You will notice that soon people will like you a lot more and everyone will want to be your friend.

10) Don’t be negative and pessimistic.

If you are someone who keeps seeing the negative side of things, if you are constantly demotivating people, if nothing seems right to you, you will never be cool and you will not make a good impression.

Always try to be positive and see the glass half full. Always say good things and look for opportunities instead of failures.

11) Take care of your personal hygiene.

Bathe well, brush your teeth, use deodorant, put on perfume, cut your nails, take care of your hair and always look presentable. You have to show that you care and love yourself.

12) Trust yourself but without being arrogant.

It is clear that the line between confidence and arrogance is very fine. You become arrogant while speaking, so talk less and listen more. Always carry yourself with confidence.

13) Be honest, authentic and original.

Nobody likes to live with someone who lies and is the same as everyone else. You have to be yourself to stand out and make people interested in you.

14) Don’t think you’re smarter than everyone else.

Try to be open to new ideas and opinions. Consider the possibility that other people may know more than you and have different opinions than you.

There are many points of view and yours is not the only one and it is not absolute. The really smart people are the ones who know that they don’t have to go around spreading how smart they are. Really smart people prove their intelligence through actions.

Our actions define who we really are.

15) Help others when they need help.

Work on not being selfish. Many people believe that cool people are the ones who see someone fall and…