From friends to boyfriends: keep this in mind before trying it –

There are seven key questions you should ask yourself before going from friends to boyfriends, so you can make sure it’s worth taking the leap.

Many courtships start from a friendship, but it is not always a good idea.

7 Questions you should ask yourself before going from friends to boyfriends

Many times you become the girlfriend of a great friend, but the relationship does not work out. So in the end you are left without the courtship and without your friend. So that it doesn’t happen to you, answer these questions honestly:

1. Is friendship worth risking?

Consider that throughout your life you will surely meet and date many people before finding “the one.”

There are real chances that your friend is not the man of your life. That means that eventually they will break up and you will lose a boyfriend and a friend.

We are not saying that it is always a bad idea to go from friends to boyfriends. What we want to imply is that, for it to be worth it, you have to be very sure that it is a person with whom there is a possibility of spending a long time.

Don’t fool yourself into thinking that if the relationship doesn’t work out, you’ll still be friends. That is very unlikely. Better analyze very well what you want in the future, before following the impulse of falling in love.

Remember: falling in love ends; not friendship.

2. Are they equally in love with each other?

If one is more in love than the other, it is not a good idea to go from friends to boyfriends. Even if you both like each other, when there is a lot of difference between your feelings, the relationship will most likely not work in the long run.

You have to be sure that he likes you as much as he likes you and that you really have important feelings for him, and you’re not just flattered by his attention.

You might even subconsciously feel like you’re obligated to be his girlfriend because it’s “the best you can get.” Be very careful with that!

Of course, emotions are very subjective. Unfortunately, they have not yet invented a “love meter” or a tool to measure the infatuation of two people.

You’re going to have to figure out if your feelings are really compatible the old-fashioned way by talking about it honestly.

Read our guide on the 10 signs to know if you are in love with the right person

3. Do you really like each other or do you just want to stop being single?

Do you want to be together? Or do you rather think that they “should” be together? Is there social pressure around you to start dating?

Think carefully about this, because often two friends start dating romantically just because there doesn’t seem to be a good reason to stop it. Obviously, if there is no love involved and they only do it out of inertia, they will end up breaking up.

The problem is that, in that period, they can end up arguing and hurting each other, so that they can’t even save the friendship.

If you are bored of being single or want to find a partner, it is better to go out on a double date. Do not try to force between you what does not exist.

4. He may be a great friend, but… will he be a great boyfriend?

Let’s imagine that at this point you have already decided that you both really like each other. Good! But that is not enough reason for them to go from friends to boyfriends.

He may be an excellent friend, but you are not sure that he will be a good boyfriend. Consider that many of his flaws that don’t bother you as a friend will exasperate you as a girlfriend.

Some of the things that can give you clues that he will be a bad boyfriend are:

– He is a very party animal and likes to go to too many parties.

– Drinks a lot or takes drugs frequently.

– He is a womanizer.

– You have been violent or rude to your ex-partners.

– Tends to be very jealous or insecure.

Also read our guide on the 10 rules to be friends with benefits

5. Are you emotionally available?

If you decide that your friend is definitely boyfriend material, it’s time for you to analyze if he is emotionally available.

By this we mean that he has the time and emotional resources to give you the attention that you seek in a relationship.

Obviously, this also means that you don’t have a crush or a friend with benefits ready to give you a hard time.

Likewise, analyze if you are willing to offer him attention and loyalty to the same extent as what you are going to demand of him.

6. Do you have compatible lifestyles?

So far so good. They like each other. He’s a great guy. And, if that weren’t enough, you’re the only woman on his radar. Perfect, but… do they have compatible lifestyles?

We can put up with a lot of things from friends because, let’s be honest, we don’t see them that often. But a boyfriend who is a soccer fan, when you don’t like that sport at all, can be quite a challenge.

Likewise, if you love spending weekends in a museum and he finds those places very boring, arguments will almost certainly arise.

Think that if you make the leap from friends to boyfriends, you will spend much more time together and that time should be spent doing things that you both enjoy, without the need for either of you to sacrifice the things you like.

7. Can you seriously think about a future together?

Finally, the acid test. Visualize your life in three or four years. Is he in it as your partner? Can you imagine your relationship evolving over time along with each other’s academic, work, and social achievements?

Maybe they meet all the above requirements. But if you plan to move abroad after finishing university and he wants to make a career in national journalism, the only thing you will achieve by going from friends to boyfriends will be a very sad outcome.

One of two: either they will separate, even though they love each other madly to pursue their dreams, or one of the two will have to give up theirs. That’s not fair to anyone.

Don’t worry, you don’t need to answer all these important questions today. Take your time, don’t rush, let things flow and follow your instinct. He is the best advisor.

What are the stages from friends to boyfriends?

Normally, the stages that a couple of friends go through before becoming lovers are the following:

1. They become friends for circumstantial reasons. There is no or very little attraction between them.

2. Over time they begin to notice that they have many things in common. The first signs of interest are beginning to emerge.

3. If you continue hanging out as friends and having a good time, that interest will turn into falling in love. However, it is very possible that neither of them will dare to confess it.

4. They both begin to send each other flirtatious signals, until something happens between them, like a kiss.

5. One of the two confesses their feelings and they discuss whether it is a good idea to move into a romantic relationship.

Why are there friends who look like boyfriends?

Typical. They stay talking until three in the morning. They get along amazingly. They trust each other with all their secrets. They look at each other with tenderness and even become jealous. What’s more, at some point they make a pact to get married if they become single at a certain age.

But no, they are not boyfriends. They are just friends”.

You would be surprised to know that these types of relationships are very common among young people. Are they friends with benefits? No. Are they in the friend zone? Neither. They simply related on an emotional level deeper than friendship, but less profound than love.

This means that they adopted many dating attitudes, but without really the interest or viability of a romantic relationship.

We have no doubt that they love each other very much. But if you are not going to be a couple for whatever reason, it is best to establish clear boundaries so that no one gets hurt.

So being clear about the relationship we have with that boy or girl will let us know how firm the transition from friends to boyfriends can be. We hope we have resolved all your doubts in this regard in this article. Leave us your comments.

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