How to attract a woman – what they don’t tell you –

In the dead of night, as you look across the bar, desperately seeking the attention of that out-of-your-league blonde, your mind is racing.

What you say? How do you act? What should you do? and you still can’t think of anything. because? because you are not asking yourself the right questions.

All those questions you are asking yourself have a deeper question, how do you attract a woman?

Look, you don’t worry about what to say or what to do, as long as you have the result, the attraction. You want her to love you, and you want it desperately.

So if you ever want to answer these seemingly unanswerable questions, you have to start by asking yourself: How do you attract a woman?

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Attracting a woman is something very simple, automatic and even logical. Of course, if you know how to do it.

If you want to get to that magical point of “accidental” eye contact, flirtatious glances and smiles, and even making her feel attracted enough to start playfully touching your arm, the first thing you need to do is forget everything she’s ever told you. on how to attract a woman.

Because?

Because the vast majority of seduction techniques and theories that are on the Internet, and were probably made by a 14-year-old puberty, assume de facto that everyone’s attraction buttons are the same.

Yes, that’s the way they talk about attraction, as if women are some kind of device that you can turn on by following the instructions in the manual and making sure all the screws are in the right place.

And in fact, that’s all a bunch of nonsense, written by some kid who doesn’t understand the difference between what they did to make a particular woman attracted to them at a certain point and the actual mechanisms of attraction.

Saying that you need to do this or that thing to attract a woman, as if it were a series of instructions that apply to everyone, is mechanistic advice that surely is not going to work for you to attract just the girl you want.

What works for one woman on one occasion is not going to work for all of them all the time. You can count on that.

An example. If you go out on a soccer field and kick the ball exactly the same way someone who scored a goal did, you’re going to miss 99.99% of the opportunities to actually do it. And if you blindly follow someone else’s formula without taking into account the context, that is, the particularities of the girl, it is very likely that you will not achieve your goal.

This is because the “right buttons of attraction” theory ignores the most fundamental rule: attraction is a feeling, not a thought.

If you can make a woman experience what she wants to experience, then she will be attracted to you. Yes No No.

It’s just that. There is no more trick.

If a woman wants to feel excited and alive and you can give her that, then she will be attracted to you. If a woman wants to feel safe and secure, and you can give her that, then she will be attracted to you. If a woman wants to feel free and without restrictions, and you can give her that, then she will be attracted to you.

When you can give a woman what she wants, she will run to you like a magnet. If you can’t, she will most likely behave neutrally or even move away from her.

Now, you’re probably thinking, what then? That’s nothing revolutionary. And it doesn’t tell us anything about the attraction switches.

And in fact you are right: it is not revolutionary. Which makes even more evident the fact that the defenders of this theory are losing sight of the most obvious thing. The fact that attraction is a feeling makes the “switch” theory of attraction completely wrong for two big reasons:

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First reason why the attraction switch theory doesn’t work:

Women want different experiences

Do you think the following types of women want to experience the same]?

The 18-year-old party girl who just broke up with her high school boyfriend. She has a sweet heart and is exploring all the possibilities of her new life at University. The 27-year-old book-loving girl who has just started a platonic romance with the novels of Edgar Allan Poe and other literary geniuses. The 35-year-old cougar who wants the attention of a young man because her eleven-year marriage no longer fulfills her at all. The 29-year-old woman who is trapped in an unsatisfying relationship with an abusive boyfriend for two years and who can’t quite find the strength to leave it.

Do you think you can flip the same switches with all these women and have them on their knees unbuttoning your pants? Do you think you can follow the same manual to turn all these women into machines of passion for you?

Of course not.

The party girl wants to taste freedom, so to attract her, you will have to give her a liberating experience. The book lover is looking for a deep experience of emotional connection, so you must give her the experience of connection. The cougar wants to feel appreciated and important, so to attract her, you must give her an experience like that. The victim of abuse wants to feel that she regains a sense of power over her life, so to attract her you need to make her feel empowered.

Every woman is different and each one is looking for a very different experience. This means that there is no “step by step” of switches that you must activate to make them feel attracted to you because each one works differently.

In the same way that you want different things in life than your parents or your peers want. So women want different things. But it’s not just that, this goes to an even deeper level.

Second reason why the attraction switch theory doesn’t work:

The experience a woman wants changes day by day, even moment by moment.

Answer this: At lunch time, did you feel like eating exactly the same thing you ate for breakfast? Most likely not, because our cravings change throughout the day. Just like the rest of the experiences we want: they change all the time.

The party girl who wants a taste of freedom may find her ex-boyfriend hooking up with another girl and suddenly all she wants is to feel valued and important. The book-loving girl who wants a deep connection may get bored at one point and want go out and do something exciting. The Cougar who wants to feel appreciated and important may find her sense of importance in herself and wants to go out on an adventure instead.

Women, just like men, change. Your thoughts, your feelings and your desires change. You can’t just follow a pre-written script to attract women because even if all the women felt the same, their desires would change from one moment to the next. And when their desires change, so do the people they are attracted to. But that’s not all, there is an additional point you need to know about switches:

There is no exact toolbox or switch you can use to attract any woman because all women are different.

Different women want different experiences at different times of the day, and to give them the experience they want and make them feel attracted to you, there is no manual you can follow. And now is where the big question comes:

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How can I attract a woman by giving her the experience she wants to have?

This is the part where all the attraction switch theory books and theorists fail and prove to be useless. Because? because the actions you take do not determine how you make a woman feel.

You can introduce yourself to her in a way that makes her feel uncomfortable, or you can do it in a way that makes her feel excited and alive. You can tell her a story in a way that makes her feel pressured to laugh and give you a positive response, or you can tell it to her. in a way that makes her feel excited. You can ask for her number in a way that makes her feel insecure, or in a way that makes her feel wanted and appreciated.

Your actions do not determine the way a woman feels. And no, it’s not your haircut, your style, your knowledge or your bank balance either. It’s something much simpler. Think about the following:

Which people close to you do you find most exciting? Are they the ones who have an immovable, boring and safe routine, or the ones who leave all ties behind and go out on an adventure? What type of people do you think are the safest and most secure? Nervous and cowardly people or those who exude confidence and strength? What type of people do you feel most connected to? To closed and devious people or to those who are frank and open?

In other words, what YOU experience is what determines what the woman you are interacting with is going to feel. Your own experience determines whether or not a woman is attracted to you.

You can’t give a woman the experience of security if you yourself don’t feel safe and confident.

You can’t give a woman an exciting experience if you yourself don’t feel excited about your life.

You cannot give a woman the experience of freedom and openness if you yourself do not feel free and open.

It’s that easy.

The secret to attracting women is:

First give yourself whatever you need.

Start by creating a life that is exciting and challenging. In which you feel powerful and strong and open and free and connected to the people around you.

Start by challenging your own insecurities instead of letting them control your life.

Start by overcoming your fears instead of allowing the fears to overcome you.

It starts with opening yourself up to others instead of hiding from the world.

Become the kind of man that women are naturally attracted to. The kind of man you want to be. To attract women, you must first become attractive, and that means becoming attractive to yourself.

Now, I’m not saying that some of the same old tricks don’t work. Of course they work. You can learn to hide and manipulate and get short-term results with some women. But if what you want are long-term results with intelligent and confident women, you will have to follow the advice we gave you here, read the guides we link below.

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