Envy: the demon that ruins any relationship

Envy is a feeling of sadness or anger at not being able to have what another person has.. It makes you not appreciate what you do have, it is a negative and sometimes even destructive feeling. How to act before it? Let’s first look at a story:

The young disciple of a wise philosopher comes to his house and says:

-Teacher, a friend was talking about you with malevolence…

-Wait! -the philosopher interrupts him-. Did you put what you’re going to tell me through three bars?

-The three bars? -asked his disciple.

-Yeah. The first is the truth. Are you sure that what you want to tell me is absolutely true?

-No. I heard it comment from some neighbors.

-At least you will have passed it off the second fence, which is goodness. Is what you want to tell me good for anyone?

-No, not really. On the contrary…

-Ah, well! The last barrier is necessity. Is it necessary to let me know what worries you so much?

-To tell the truth, no.

-So… -said the wise man smiling-, If it is not true, nor good nor necessary, let us bury it in oblivion.

Human relationships would be much healthier if before echoing something we passed it through the bars of truth, goodness and necessity. It is difficult for all of us to use these three principles in the face of gossip, but the fact is that There are people really incapable of containing their desire for criticism and recriticism.. What is behind all this? The darkness of envy and its terrifying cave.

The destructive power of envy

Envy is the deadliest virus I know, It ruins relationships, cancels out sensations, emotions and people. It seems truly dangerous to me simply because we can all fall into its clutches, since it is so widespread that it has reached the level of a pandemic. Given this fact, the possibility of getting vaccinated becomes especially relevant, both to feel it and to suffer it.

Behind the spell of envy and gossip hides a terrible demon that has no mercy on us: lack of self-esteem. and self-love. The best weapon that envy has to attack us is to predispose us to a disadvantageous comparison.

It is well known that all comparison is hatefulamong other reasons because it is a way of exposing ourselves to the image of our frustrations and having them returned to us by our mirror in magnifying glass mode.

Furthermore, envy brings to light the darkest and darkest side of the human being, which is not only the lack of love for oneself, but also confirms one of the most uncomfortable truths of humanity: the condemnation of talent and success. oblivious It is easier to channel frustration into judgment and criticism than to recognize our inferiority complex.

What happens to the person sent?

It is quite common for us to wonder about the reason why the envious person envies, but we tend to underestimate the burden that this represents for the envied person. That others envy you is a real sufferingit distances you from reality and generates distrust.

There are certain moments in which the envied people no longer know who their friends or enemies are., who you can trust. They even begin to question whether their success belongs to them or is ungrateful, as evil tongues claim. This can even encourage a victorious feeling to become a constant chain of insecurities and hardships.

Face envy

I am sure that we will not be able to eradicate envy, but we can mitigate it. Let’s transfer the filters we have known to our thoughts and actions. (truth, goodness and necessity). Let’s work on our own feeling of love and identity and generate an inner life that makes it difficult for us to take a malicious interest in the successes and failures of others. And, of course, let’s use the light source that our envy generates to promote those achievements that we still have to mature.

As for overcoming the damage caused by “being envied,” the truth is that it requires some prior experience. and we cannot start the house from the roof. We know that there are some events that will provoke comparisons and that all our greatness is capable of highlighting the little things of others, just as the reverse happens.

So, knowing this, Let’s allow ourselves to savor our virtues in a different way: showing others that they can achieve it, so that they can have fun trying and we can have fun giving them a hand. Because just as greed and envy destroy us, admiration builds us.

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