There are those who argue about everything and those who make you laugh with everything

There are those who have the art of unraveling the knot of every difficulty and to make you laugh until your stomach hurts. They do it just because, because life for that person has music, it has rhyme and it is simple. On the other hand, others argue about nothing and get upset about everything, they only see walls where others see bridges, they bring storms on calm days and senseless anger that creates distances.

Why are human relationships so complex? We could say that well-worn thing that in our daily lives, it will always be better to avoid those who like to alter our psychological balance to stay only with those who give us joy. However, this principle of elementary health cannot always be fulfilled, because To live together you have to know how to understand other people’s perspectives And above all, you have to learn to survive in every setting, whether it is inhabited by noble beings or angry dragons.

Sometimes, those who They argue about everything, they may be going through a depressive process.. Other times, those who laugh at everything actually apply aggressive or even self-destructive humor. Every behavioral style has its extremes and above all has its meanings. We must understand them, We must be wise readers and translators of those foreign worlds that orbit around us, influencing us with their eclipses and tides…

Those who make us laugh at everything…. Are they always happy people?

Peter McGraw is a psychologist at the University of Colorado, famous for creating the “humor laboratory.” This department studies, for example, the impact of humor as therapy and the use of laughter as a “drug” to improve the quality of life of chronically ill or cancer patients. Science supports these initiatives, although it has been shown that More than laughter, what improves the daily life of these patients is their attitude, their optimism and their internal strength.

In addition, Dr. McGraw has established in his theory the differentiation of 4 types of humor. Because sometimes, many of those people who make us laugh at everything are not always happy, they are not always the reflection of adequate inner well-being. It is worth delving into these categories to better understand these types of dynamics that we see in our daily lives.

Aggressive humor. This practice is very common in those who make us laugh through irony and the most cynical sarcasm.where third parties are objectified or ridiculed.Humor as self-improvement. This type of humor is one of the healthiest since it is very useful when managing stress. It is when someone is capable of laughing at themselves to relativize a bad day, a mistake made, to ironize a defect that cannot be improved or even to remove tension from a given moment. Self-aggressive humor. It would undoubtedly be the other side of the coin of humor that seeks to improve itself. In this case, aggressiveness is used against oneself, either due to a notable low self-esteem, due to the imprint of depression or because one seeks to victimize oneself and attract the attention of those around one.Affiliative humor. Finally, we have the most life-giving, useful, and wonderful expressiveness of humor.is that which comes from someone who makes us laugh in order to unite the bond between us more, to build complicity, to provide happiness, connection and real well-being.

Thus, and given the previous classification, it is clear to us that When we say that someone has a “great sense of humor” we really need to know what kind of humor they practice and how it impacts others. We have all experienced that moment when someone makes us laugh, but the feeling that permeates us is strange and uncomfortable, as if we instantly noticed a malicious shadow.

Those who argue about everything… do they enjoy making life difficult for others so much?

Tal Ben-Shahar, professor of positive psychology at Harvard, is known as the “happiness guru.” His numerous publications on emotions and moods are always an interesting reference when it comes to better understanding certain behaviors, such as, for example, what is behind those people who argue about everything and who seem to enjoy complicating and complicating life so much? to others?

The answer is simple: unhappiness. Now, after this devastating word -no one deserves to experience such an abyss- There is a whole kaleidoscope of poorly managed, poorly addressed, and poorly resolved dynamics. For example: poor ability to tolerate frustration, poor problem-solving strategies, unrealistic expectations, tunnel vision, lack of reflective thinking, low self-esteem, low emotional intelligence…

We can all go through a moment like this, complex vital moments where one or more triggers end up weakening us.positivity

To achieve this we need will and self-control. You don’t have to fall into victimhood, it’s just about picking up the broken pieces and as if it were a precise craft, repair every corner with the glue of self-esteem and the varnish of motivation. In this way, we will also understand that not all those who laugh are happy nor those who argue about everything are lost causes. We can all heal ourselves, we can all find balance and happiness.

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