Discover the 4 gifts of highly sensitive people (HSP)

When you see yourself in a minority compared to the vast majority, the first sensation is to feel disadvantaged and afraid.. Why do I perceive things differently and sometimes even suffer more than others? What explanation is there behind the fact that loneliness relieves me so much? Why do I observe and feel things that others often overlook? Perhaps you are part of highly sensitive people (HSP).

Being part of that 20% of the population who recognize themselves as a highly sensitive person (HSP) is not a disadvantage. Nor should we put that label on ourselves. “I’m different”. It is very possible that throughout your life, and especially during your childhood, you were very aware of that emotional distance, and how at times, you had the feeling of living in a kind of bubble of strangeness and loneliness. However, None of this justifies that you should establish a distance between yourself and others.

It was Elaine N. Aron who, in the early 90s, delving into the introverted personality, meticulously detailed the features of a new dimension not described until then. It was that which reflected a social reality: that of highly sensitive, reflective, empathetic and, at the same time, emotionally reactive people.

If this is your case, if you feel identified with those traits that Dr. Aron left us in her book The Highly Sensitive Personit is important that you also convince yourself that High sensitivity can also be a gift. An exceptional capacity capable of enriching your life in different aspects.

1. The gift of emotional knowledge

Since childhood, The child with high sensitivity will perceive aspects in his daily life that will offer him a mixture of anguish, contradiction and fascinating curiosity. Your eyes will capture aspects that not even adults take into account.

That expression of frustration on their teachers, the expression of concern on their mother, their older sister’s infatuation… They will be able to perceive things that other children do not see and will also show high emotional maturity. All of this will outline a reality that is at times as difficult as it is contradictory. They will see the world with the eyes of a child who opens early to the world of emotions without yet knowing what guides them, what makes them vibrate or what sharpens adult suffering.

Sensitivity is like a light that shines, but at the same time, it makes us more vulnerable to the behavior of others, to white lies, to disappointments, to ironies… It’s just that you take everything in a tremendous way! They will often tell you, You are very sensitive! Others will tell you. That’s right, but what does it matter? You are who you are, neither better nor worse. Only you. Someone with a gift that requires high responsibility, your knowledge of emotions also requires you to know how to protect yourself. Know how to take care of yourself.

Tips to better manage your emotional gift

Accept the contradictions of others. People are sometimes fickle, sometimes they get angry and then they seek your closeness. Don’t see all this as a defect or take it personally. Assume with maturity the way of being of those around you. Highly sensitive people usually have high empathy. Learn to manage it. Above all, try not to become immersed in other people’s emotions until you become trapped by them. Apply ecpathy: connect with other people’s realities, but do not take them with you, Don’t let them absorb you.

2. Highly sensitive people and the gift of enjoying solitude

Highly sensitive people find some pleasure in their moments of solitude. They are corners that they eagerly seek to carry out their tasks, their hobbies. They are creative people who enjoy music, reading… Thus, and although this does not mean that they avoid the company of others, it is in solitude where they are most comfortable.

Tips to better manage sociability and moments of loneliness

Just because you like solitude does not mean that you are a lonely person.. Each person has personal needs, channels of expression, contexts in which to realize themselves.Whoever appreciates you and understands you will understand. Make your partner and friends understand that this preference does not mean that you love them any less. There are times when you need your own company and that is not a bad thing. It is part of your way of being and as such, they must understand it.Establish those moments of intimacy with yourself daily. They should serve to “recharge your batteries” after work or those situations that often leave you psychologically exhausted.

3. The gift of an existence from the heart

When talking about highly sensitive people, it is common for them to be associated with suffering. We maintain the idea that sensitivity hurts and makes us fragile. That high sensitivity is synonymous with depression, sadness and isolation. It’s a mistake. Because in fact, there is something that the rest don’t know: Few realities are lived with greater intensity than building a day-to-day life that starts directly from the heart.

High sensitivity allows us to enjoy everything around us much more. We connect with music, nature, art… We connect authentically with our friends, partners, family… We appreciate details that make everyday life magical. We get excited like no one else and what’s more, we are not afraid of loneliness. There is no weakness in this, there is strength.

The simple act of Experiencing the beauty of a painting, a landscape or a melody is an intense experience for highly sensitive people. Rooted in one’s own heart.

Tips to effectively lead a life from the heart

Understand (and accept) that others do not vibrate at the same emotional level as you.Just because others don’t see or feel the way you do doesn’t mean they are different from you. Everyone responds to the world with an intensity. Just as you connect with the beauties of life, you will also connect with the most negative aspects. You will feel more intensely adversity, negative news, disrespectful acts of others, lies, human evil… Do not break down when something like this happens. Look at life assuming that there are chiaroscuros in it. Don’t place your gaze only on that grayer and more exhausting side.

4. The gift of inner growth

High sensitivity cannot be cured. You empower yourself and learn to live effectively with that gift. Because highly sensitive people come into the world with it and must learn to make it their own without it hurting, without it limiting. Assuming each characteristic will allow you to generate an entire inner revolution over time.

It is not easy to live with this gift, it is clear. Nevertheless, Highly sensitive people end up taking responsibility for themselves. This responsibility comes from self-esteem, adequate emotional intelligence and adequate capacity for resilience. Day by day and year by year we will feel safer. Because the key is to promote that self-knowledge with which to accept ourselves and others. When that day comes, we start the engine of growth.

Keys to develop your personal growth

Put a purpose in your life.Work on self-confidence, emotional independence. Identify your fears and try to manage them with greater solvency. Make your high sensitivity your best instrument. Find an occupation or job where you can help/inspire others. When you can show your gifts without fear or limitations to others, your self-esteem will improve. You will discover how much you can do for yourself and for others. Your inner beauties will reflect on those around you and something like this is inspiring.

In conclusion. These four gifts do not come to the highly sensitive person automatically. They must be discovered, enhanced and focused on certain goals. Those that help us individually, those that, at the same time, can serve others who may find themselves in the same circumstances.

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