Can’t remember what you dreamed about? |

Some people dream intensely – many times during the night – and, in general, they can only remember the dreams that occurred closer to waking time, in the morning. Other times a dream is so vivid, so overwhelming, that it stays with you all day. At different moments, she finds herself remembering scenes and sensations from the dream that invade her like a child, urging her to ask for something. Some dreams even persist for a long time. I myself remember the complete scene of a single dream I had at the age of five and which is still vivid in my memory. But what about those who cannot remember their own dreams?

Some people claim that they don’t dream. Others who never or rarely remember their dreams. And there are also those who dream, remember the dream when waking up, but forget it throughout the day. It is worth remembering that when the dream does not receive due attention, it fades into memory.

Does everyone dream?

First, it is practically impossible for a healthy human being not to dream. It is possible, yes, that there is a certain constipation of dreams, that is, people who dream really little. In general, this will be linked to some specific situations, such as very advanced age, some type of mental disorder or trauma that has affected the brain regions organically involved in dream production.

Obviously, in cases of severe trauma or deep coma, it is still impossible to state that such patients dream. However, the most common thing is that the person is simply not interested in establishing any kind of contact with their dreams, judging it to be banal, something unimportant and that says nothing about them and their inner world. In this case, the dreamer sees this situation as a distant reality, but this does not make it irrelevant or non-existent.

The truth is that this attitude of modern man towards his own unconscious, especially in relation to dreams, is the main cause of neurotic symptomatology – which is characterized by a conflict between what the person is and what he has learned to be socially. The incompatibility between family, social, cultural and professional expectations, in addition to the demands of the soul, generates this type of symptom. The lack of connection with the inner world deprives modern man of properly orienting himself in the outer world.

The lack of connection with the inner world deprives modern man of properly orienting himself in the outer world.

We often see people who don’t live the life they want to live, aren’t in the marriage they want to be in, don’t work where they want to work, don’t play the way they want to, don’t spend time with their kids as much as they’d like. , they do exactly what their souls don’t want. They probably dream of such situations, but the fact that they do not know how to interpret them, do not seek an analyst to help them understand, or really are not interested at all in what their souls communicate to them, they end up suffering from strong neurotic symptoms – which are , in general, repetitive patterns and almost always generate negative results in the person’s life.

In these cases, there is a dissonance between the inner world and the outer world. For this reason, it is the therapist’s job to help the patient to equalize this relationship. For example: a woman whose mother has always criticized her and who has – repeatedly in different sectors of her life – strong self-criticism and never judges herself to be good enough. This ends up boycotting her chances of success and, due to the “neurotic pattern”, she is prevented from realizing her full potential.

Dreams say what you don’t know yet

To remember dreams, in principle, it is important to understand the reason for their existence. Dreams are a totally individual product, even if they contain symbols of the collective. The language of the dream is the symbol. They are to dreams what words are to our language. Then we can understand that dreams are like a conversation that the unconscious tries to establish with the conscience, with symbols in the form of an image, known or at least intelligible. Consciousness has lost its ability to understand them and, therefore, today an expert is needed for this task. Dreams are messages from the individual’s soul.

They say what we don’t know, that we don’t access by simple conscious arbitrary will. Dreams tell us what we need to change, alert us to the dangers of maintaining an attitude that hurts the soul, show us a path, help us to deal with external situations that affect us.

Now, knowing that dreams are so important, I will comment on some tips on how to get more in touch with this language, how to get closer to the unconscious and, finally, how to remember your dreams:

Understand and accept that dreams are your channel of communication with the unknown in yourself. Do not dismiss or dismiss your dreams because of rational judgment or because you do not understand their meaning. When you finish dreaming and find yourself returning to consciousness, still lying down and with your eyes closed, try to replay the dream scenes in your conscious mind, in order to fix them in your brain, so that they become accessible. As soon as you open your eyes, have a notebook handy to write down this dream so you don’t run the risk of forgetting it. Some people keep a dream diary, in which they record all messages with a date, so that they can be worked on later with the analyst. Maintaining a constancy in this attitude strengthens contact with the unconscious and allows you to evaluate dreams sequentially after some time, perceiving a story in them. Your history. Telling someone the dream can be productive. Even if the person asks you something unfounded or makes inappropriate comments, you may have some “insights” about what you dreamed. The most advisable thing is to look for a specialist who will do this together with you, asking more pertinent questions and propitious inferences that will help you to uncover the symbols that your unconscious has produced. This specialist is usually a psychologist who uses an approach in which he analyzes dreams and symbols. By seeking this deeper contact with your own unconscious, you will certainly discover a more effective way of being in the world and facing daily issues more appropriately.