36 Negative Habits That Are Destroying Many Relationships

Relationships are often confusing because we as people are complicated. We often blame ourselves too much when we realize our mistakes and this ends up taking a toll on the health of our relationship.

Does your relationship continue to collide in strange and similar ways? Most likely one of the following habits listed below is your fault!

Read on and see the 36 negative habits that are destroying many relationships:

1. Refusing to share difficult feelings with your partner.

two. Not accepting your partner’s feelings.

3. Expecting your partner to do something only you could do for yourself.

4. Using love as an excuse for unacceptable behavior—such as jealousy, excessive control, mutual dependence, and abuse (physical and emotional).

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5. Making important decisions, shopping, or making commitments without talking to your partner first.

6. Refusing to go to a class, participate in a course or project that you had previously agreed upon.

7. Neglecting hobbies that were once important to you and that made you feel complete — and/or expecting your partner to do the same.

8. Neglecting your valued friendships in favor of spending more time with your partner — and/or expecting him/her to do the same.

9. Addiction to food, alcohol, drugs, shopping, pornography—or anything else that takes your attention away from real life.

10. Keeping secrets that compromise the level of trust in your relationship.

11. Repeatedly irritating your partner about a single issue.

12. Ignoring your partner just because he or she did something that pissed you off.

13. Requiring your partner to have the same interests, political opinions, and spiritual thoughts as you.

14. Use humor to avoid healthy conflict resolution.

15. Neglecting responsibility for your own part in a conflict, preferring to focus solely on your partners’ mistakes.

16. Don’t apologize when you know you’ve done something wrong.

17. Engaging in demeaning behavior such as sarcasm or teasing.

18. Pay more attention to your cell phone than your partner.

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19. Abandoning physical contact with your partner or refusing to give affection and hugs.

20. Lying to your partner about where you are, who you are with, or why you are there.

21. Refusing to allow your partner to do certain activities, go to certain places, or see certain friends due to your own insecurities.

22. Projecting the faults of your ex-partner, your parents or even yourself onto your partner.

23. Invading your partner’s privacy by fiddling with their cell phone, snooping around their apartment or hacking into their computer.

24. Looking the other way and refusing to solve the problem when your partner does something that hurts emotionally.

25. Behaving as if you were your partner’s child.

26. Trying to control the amount of time your partner spends with friends or family who are important to them.

27. Refusing to respect your partner’s need for time alone.

28. Neglecting your partner’s financial concerns and causing him or her to spend in a way that is not consistent with your budget.

29. Not taking into account your actions when you hurt your partner emotionally or spiritually.

30. Refusing to let your partner forget about a past mistake.

31. Refusing to take steps to correct your own mistakes.

32. Expecting your partner to build his or her life around your plans, rather than his or her plans as well.

33. Hiding something important from your partner, whether good or bad.

34. Expect to continue leading a single life even though you are in a serious relationship.

35. Refuse to be vulnerable with your partner.

36. Feeling happy only with the good moments of the relationship, and forgetting to work on the difficulties that all relationships bring.

Did you identify with any behavior on this list? If so, know that you are not alone.

Many of us are guilty of many of these behaviors. Don’t punish yourself. Instead, take advantage of your self-awareness.

Work on being a better partner each day in your relationship.

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