15 Responses to Female Criticisms About Your Appearance

One recent study proved that the main female criticisms do not come from men and/or other women, but from themselves. They even criticize themselves up to eight times a day.

The survey, carried out by the Weight Watchers Program in England, reached this conclusion by interviewing 2,000 women and found that one in seven regularly criticize themselves each day.

On top of the complaints and self-humiliations is calling yourself fat and criticizing your appearance. For the company that formulated the study, Instagram and other social networks are the channels that most stimulate the psychological aggression that women do to themselves.

“In this frenetic, image-driven world, we’re seeing an increase in low self-esteem among women, from how they see themselves to how they feel at work,” says Zoe Griffiths, director of Weight Watchers.

Other disturbing survey results reveal that nearly half (46%) of women criticize themselves at least once before 9:30 am; another 42% admitted never giving themselves a compliment.

Concerns about life, sexual performance, career and finances are other points where a woman is self-critical.

The survey was conducted as part of #WomanKind, a campaign that explores why modern women are unkind to them and how they can counter this cultural habit, make healthier choices and build better relationships with themselves.

To try to improve female self-esteem, I decided to answer the main criticisms that women make about themselves.

I’M VERY FAT

Perhaps one of the biggest female vulnerabilities is in the extra pounds exposed by tight clothes and the addition of scale numbers. She soon drops self-esteem and beats that insecurity.

As women pursue the beauty ideal of a 16-year-old girl – propagated by commercials and the fashion industry – they fail to realize that no beauty product or surgical incision is as effective as a woman well resolved with herself.

Learn from Pierce Brosnam, actor who played 007 in theaters, married since 20o1 to Keely Shaye Smith. During this time, she gained a few extra pounds. Do you know what happened to the relationship? Anything.

“I love your vitality, your passion. She has a strength I wouldn’t be able to live without. When Keely looks at me, I quickly lose my composure,” points out Pierce.

I AM NOT ATTRACTIVE TO MY PARTNER

One of the great fears of many women is that the fiancé/boyfriend/husband can exchange her for another with a leaner body, without stretch marks, culottes or cellulite.

But in fact, we shouldn’t give this much importance, because it’s not the localized fat that will build a relationship between two people, much less plastic surgery, creams and crazy diets.

Develop your self-love, be more generous with yourself. These are the key steps to becoming a more attractive person to yourself and others.

I AM NOT WEARING ENOUGH MAKEUP

Many women lead their lives for the need to look good and are hostage to makeup. They need to look beautiful, perfect and young. Thousands of beauty products are created and, through advertising, they are forced to consume many extremely unnecessary things.

What makes a woman interesting is not wearing a mask that hides her real identity. It’s her good mood, personality and the feeling she expresses in speaking. This, there is no makeup that can help or hide. So, woman, next time you’re putting together your checklist, I suggest that she doesn’t spend so much time in front of the mirror and worry more about showing her real beauty.

I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH SEX WITH MY PARTNER

Our daily life is very busy with things to do and, if you don’t police yourself, you will end up leaving your libido and the relationship on the sidelines until you get to the point where you see two friends living at the same address.

Re-establish the emotional connection with your partner; create activities or hobbies to do together; increase dialogue; boost in bed with fantasies and fetishes to practice; and most importantly, get out of the virtual world and live the real world with it. The result you will see in bed.

MY HAIR IS HORRIBLE

Learn, first, to accept not only your hair as it is, but all parts of your body, such as breasts, belly, stretch marks and cellulite. Don’t get attached to a style that isn’t yours or resort to countless aesthetic treatments to force you to follow a pattern, fashion or trend. It is possible to look beautiful in curly, curly, short, long or whatever it is.

It is logical that we feel fulfilled by a girl taking special care with beauty for an appointment. But these cares should not be worth so much suffering, unhappiness and female frustration. I easily exchange a lost afternoon at the hairdresser’s, for having my partner at home, without makeup, with undo-able nails, but happy, by my side watching a movie on TV, even if it’s an Afternoon Session.

I WANT TO BE PHOTOGENIC LIKE OTHER WOMEN ON INSTAGRAM/FACEBOOK

More important than looking pretty and interesting on social media is being good with yourself in real life. Beauty is represented in a set of factors such as accepting yourself better, improving self-esteem, transmitting your own style and not caring about the opinion of others.

When you have this equation well resolved, the rest appears as a consequence, including on social networks.

I DON’T WORK OUT ENOUGH

If physical activity is a burden for you, you probably haven’t found one that captivates you. Exercising your body is not just weight training. If you don’t like ‘pulling iron’, resort to a dance class, bike, wrestling, crossfit or some other functional training. No matter which choice, the important thing is to have the body active.

I DON’T EARN ENOUGH MONEY

The more we have, the more we want. Regardless of your career or job, we always have the impression that we don’t earn enough for our fulfillment. But whoever thinks that a bigger allowance will solve all their problems is wrong.

Money can buy more comfort and security. But more important than having a higher salary is having better control of your finances. Rethink how your financial life is, if the problem is really your low salary or if you need a better organization of your income.

I FEEL UNDRESSED (COMPARED TO OTHER WOMEN)

What makes a well-dressed person: Follow fashion standards? Buy expensive clothes? All the leading stylists and experts in the field are unanimous in saying that the main thing is to discover your style and dress accordingly.

Before putting yourself in comparison, stop, reflect and find out which clothes you feel good about, which best reflects your personality. Only then will you be able to feel better in your outfit.

I JUST EAT BULLSHIT

Can’t you live without eating a sweet or something greasy? And when you consume these options do you feel an inexplicable pleasure? According to a recent survey, published in the Daily Mail, this addiction to high-calorie foods is equivalent to that caused by drug use.

Simple tips, such as eating every three hours, eating fiber, doing physical activity and increasing the consumption of fruits, vegetables and vegetables can help you reduce the goodies in your life.

THEY ARE TALKING BADLY ABOUT ME BEHIND MY BACK

Living a life that conforms to ideal standards of what other people think is a very bad way to live. This turns you into a cowardly bystander who waits for other people to act first. It makes you become the audience of your own life. Worst of all, it makes you become someone who can’t take a stand for anything.

Discover your values, speak your mind, choose your company well and stop worrying about what others think or don’t think.

I DON’T SPEND AS MUCH TIME WITH MY FRIENDS AS I SHOULD

This is a flaw that many men and women insist on persisting. Whether for routine work or even for being in a relationship, people end up leaving their private practices, their friends aside, to live for the sole purpose of the relationship.

This ends up generating excess pressure in life together and tends to wear it out over time. It is very important to have and keep your friendships, it is the escape valve for your life together, for your stressful work or academic routine, it is a great ally for mental illnesses such as depression.

MY ASS IS HUGE

“I’m aware that my butt looks like a bag of pancakes, but I’m not trying to be the most beautiful in the world. There comes a time when you start asking yourself, ‘What is it really like to be sexy?’ It’s not just your breast lift.

The actress well defines the concept of real beauty, being confident and thinking beyond the aesthetic condition. With all the experience of a mature woman, she doesn’t need to be a slave to cosmetic treatments, surgical incisions to look good. She needs, first, to be happy and fulfilled with herself. That should be the goal of all women and men.

I’M NOT AS CREATIVE AS OTHER WOMEN

It makes no sense to compare your history and personality with anyone else. This is because not only the physiology, the body, the genetics, the history of creation, the personality were different. But it also doesn’t make sense to compare because it won’t lead to anything, especially the way most people do.

I can even compare myself with those who had better material and study conditions than mine and I can feel inferior and create a harmful low self-esteem. And I can create a feeling of superiority and arrogance if I compare myself to people who were less able, which anyway is not going to be useful because it will just push me away from the people I could help.

I DON’T WEAR SOME CLOTHES BECAUSE I WON’T BE ABLE TO TAKE THEM OFF AFTER

Why keep torturing yourself, worried about wearing uncomfortable pieces of clothing or that are not compatible with your body? Appreciate for dressing well, using pieces that enhance your attributes and do not mark your flaws even more. Let go of anything that brings insecurity or discomfort.

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