You are responsible for your love life |

Often, when a relationship is not working out, we tend to believe in “bad luck”, in fate or even blame circumstances, people and even our other half for the difficulties we face in the relationship. We see our effort and dedication, our willingness to make it work, but even so, things go wrong, fights happen and even if you get along with the person, what you get from them is not exactly what you would like.

It could be, for example, that you dream of having a more romantic, energetic, calm, economical or adventurous person by your side. However, as you don’t see this on a daily basis, you end up not being able to be fully happy and still end up blaming the other for your dissatisfaction.

What if I told you that you also bear responsibility for the fact that this person and this relationship is not the best it could be? That everything you planted in the past in the form of beliefs, feelings and actions created the reality you now live in?

It is at this moment that the universal law of action and reaction, so well known by all of us, comes into play. The same one we learn in our physics classes or in some games. After all, who expected a ball thrown into the wall not to go back in the same direction it came from? However, truisms like this are lost when it comes to relationships, as we are usually unable to relate our actions to the reactions we receive. Of course, life is much more complex than a simple ball game. However, with some training you can begin to understand the true roots of your current love life.

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The Law of Cause and Effect, which we are talking about today, says that every action is a creative force. As nothing is lost in the universe, every feeling or thought you have will trigger events or even materialize things that are vibrating in the same tune. For example, if you keep repeating that “men are no good”, you are, without realizing it, creating an individual reality in which the men who are part of your daily life or who relate to you are all good for nothing.

It is obvious that there are wonderful men around you, but you do not see them, they simply disappear before your eyes, as if they do not exist. This happens because you created this thought, this belief and stopped emitting the same energy as them.

Therefore, if you still don’t have what you want in love, review your past, your beliefs, thoughts and feelings. Did you really want a romantic person by your side? A lot of people can get tired when the other is kind or too present. If you’ve always wanted someone serious and mysterious, he certainly won’t be romantic, nor will he reveal his feelings and tell you that he loves you all the time!

With humility and detachment, it is possible to abandon beliefs that you have been carrying for many years, but that do not work. After all, wanting to get married and have children doesn’t match the profile of a person who values freedom at any cost, does it? So wanting to relate to such a person, for example, is the same as gratuitously creating a conflict, which you will then have difficulty getting out of.