The problem with love these days

Love is strange today. People became products. Monogamy is on trial. Today, more than ever, love is distorted and blurred.

We can literally put on our masks, introduce ourselves in a way that is not honest, and communicate only using Gifs and Emojis. We create a digital wall that separates us, leaving room for brusque behaviors that don’t promote our self-esteem, instead keeping us locked into old patterns.

At the same time, we complain. “It’s hard to find love these days…”

Oh yes? Because love hasn’t changed.

We moved.

We are convinced that the neighbor’s grass is greener when in fact we don’t even take care of our own. The perception we create about love these days is keeping us locked up in our own prisons, chasing fantasy instead of practicing real love.

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Self improvement has become the center of all things and everyone is “working on themselves” but when it comes to love and relationship, we put our mask back on, hide behind our cell phones, not being honest with ourselves and much less with others and we avoid compromise at all costs.

So what exactly are we working on? In addition to gaining likes and followers?

Do you know what the problem with love is today?

It’s just that people are preferring shallow relationships out of fear that things will get difficult. Afraid that the bad side of relationships will show and they will have to step out of their comfort zones to make it work. That’s why we don’t care about love today.

We prefer to “love” from a distance. One foot in, one foot out. Always in the rear. Walking on the shore instead of playing in the waves, avoiding the hard and looking for ways to make love simple.

We are becoming invisible and true love is becoming just an idea.

Simply put, we are labeling love.

In fact, we are at war with him.

Pat Benetar was wrong.

Love is not “a battlefield”. Our life that is.

Our digital age is leading us to live eternally in quarantine. ” Isolate yourself, beware of the agglomeration, love with caution. Stay in the shallow end.” But the thing is, love requires you to dive to the bottom. Love is an iceberg and it only grows as it goes deeper.

You just need to close your eyes, cross your arms and fall back. Yes, you can even get hurt. Yes, things may not go as planned.

But have you ever achieved something of value that had no risk?

Love is not about the promise. It’s about everyday choice. And if you’re afraid of loving, because you’re afraid that it won’t work out or that he or she will go away, you’re not in love. You are testing. And just testing it never works.

Look, before you call me an old-timer, know that this article is not about turning off your cell phone.

Use it as a tool!

Get out of your safe zone and go for what’s real.

That means showing up and being yourself. Be physically honest, vulnerable, affordable. Play your cards on the table and be open to human exchange and learn a new story every day.

Be open to new opportunities. Stop focusing on the fairytale prince/princess. That’s a myth. People have flaws and that’s what makes them different from each other. Imagine how boring it would be if everything was perfectly aligned?!

Stop labeling and treat people with respect. communicate. Be respectful. Have good manners. You will need these things if you want a healthy relationship.

And finally, stop comparing your life to what you see on your Instagram feed. This is all outdoors. Misleading advertising. It’s not real life.

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