Tantric massage: what you need to know before trying it

Lack of desire, pain during penetration, premature ejaculation: there are many difficulties that can hover over a couple’s bed. But I never thought that an option to treat them was to Tantric massage🇧🇷 When I received the mission to know the practice to tell here, I had no idea what to expect. A friend mentioned that she would lead to multiple orgasmsbut I didn’t know whether it was true or how to get there.

I began the investigation by talking to supporters. Etiquette consultant Fernanda, 38 years old, from São Paulo, suffered childhood sexual abuse and ended up developing a touch lock🇧🇷 “After the first session, I went out with a guy and noticed that my stamina had gone down. I keep doing and improving.” The report was not enough to convince me: how a massage could help to have a fuller sex life🇧🇷

“My husband had cancer, I had multiple sclerosis and depression. Tantra solved many problems during that difficult period,” Jaqueline, a 41-year-old security guard from São Paulo, told me. “Stayed more confident, stronger and with more energy to face the obstacles… Not to mention that I started to enjoy much more intensely.” I needed to find out what it was and how it worked.

“What is obtained in massage goes far beyond sex and pleasure – the idea is to make vital energy flow, the so-called kundalini, in our centers of consciousness, the chakras”, explained the tantric therapist Evandro Palma, a reference in the subject, who works at Centro Metamorfose, in São Paulo. The concept is not simple. And there are, yes, professionals who claim to be specialists, but do nothing more than masturbate with clients.

“A correct session has nothing erotic about it, even if it involves the genitals”, clarified Palma. Yes, the masseur can include in the “package” the yoni (made in the vagina) or the lingam (in the penis). But not necessarily. “The therapist feels, during the conversation before the session and during the touch, if that body is prepared for this type of contact”, told me Fábio Henrique Neves, from the Pulso de Vida space, in São Paulo, where the session costs 350 reais .

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The idea is to make the vital energy, the so-called kundalini, flow in our centers of consciousness, the chakras. Many narrate stratospheric orgasms in massages, but that doesn’t mean that the mood of the session is exactly erotic.

I was still thinking: how can a massage provide this? “It was the same question I asked myself”, Ana, 29 years old, literary editor from São Paulo, who has already done more than ten sessions, told me. “I read and talk too much. But in tantra, I discovered a profound way to reach something that, chattering on the couch, I had never found.” She described a kind of understanding of self and life🇧🇷

Soley Prem Nalini, who also works at Pulso de Vida, reinforces: “We want to understand everything rationally. But in massage it is through specific touches that our blockages are dismantled. Don’t try to understand rationally. You have to go through the experience🇧🇷

It was with high expectations that I arrived at my session. Before starting, there is a conversation with the therapist in a welcoming environment – ​​a room with a futon on the floor, covered in petals, in front of a balcony through which natural light enters. Though at ease, I found it difficult to relax as he began his work.

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I was there totally naked – the sessions are done like this; the therapists get dressed – still not knowing if the yoni massage would happen and if I would have stratospheric orgasms, as they told me. In any case, I’ve always enjoyed getting massages – the touch is a known releaser of oxytocin, the feel-good hormone, and I knew I would leave feeling relaxed. But transformed?

Over the course of two hours, with lots of sliding hands all over my body (back and front) and perfumed oil, I ended up managing to surrender – and I was surprised by the memories that came to mindall referring to my adolescence and the beginning of my sexual life.

In that very intimate moment, I really didn’t notice anything erotic – on the contrary, it was all very muscular, physiological. On the way home, I had interesting insights, as has happened in so many therapy sessions. Worth it. By the way, I need to talk about this experience with my therapist.

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