Stay with those people with whom you can be you in all your essence

There are people who bring out the most sincere, genuine and true within us, our entire essence.. They are those that go deeper into us, that express our essence and that make us enjoy how wonderful it is to feel good being yourself.

They are those people who have something that we do not know how to define, who invite us to have complete confidence and feel completely free to behave as we want. and as the body asks us at every moment… To be ourselves in essence.

Being able to be yourself has become an exception rather than a rule currently, which causes us to often feel misplaced. This is due to the fear of being judged and labeled, which means that in the end we hide our true interests and put on a mask so as not to deal with certain situations.

“One cannot be oneself absolutely when one is in public, because being in public already forces one to a certain self-defense”

-John Lennon-

The value of authenticity

Sometimes we deny that we like certain music or that we are interested in some hobbies but not others. At other times we may even ignore or omit information about us that is requested of us or that we would be happy to share.

In this way, little by little, we stop being ourselves in front of others or even in our internal life, which is much more serious and more worrying. We abandon our own essence

I mean, not behaving as we would like ends up diminishing us, this generates an emotional impoverishment that leaves us immersed in a characteristic mixture of sadness, melancholy and reluctance. This, of course, has its consequences on our relationships, which in turn become increasingly unsatisfactory.

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However, sometimes we find people with whom we can be ourselves and with which we feel really good no holds barred. Thanks to that push, we allow ourselves to free ourselves from those emotional ties and begin to get excited again.

The truth is that these types of connections are not abundant, so we have to appreciate each of the moments that we live with them, since they help us contemplate and work on ourselves in essence.

“Friendship with oneself is of utmost importance, since without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world”

-Eleanor Roosevelt-

Be you with total freedom

As we have commented so far, being yourself with total freedom is quite complicated since it largely depends on how comfortable we feel with others. However, the real work to be done is up to us; That is to say, being yourself requires self-knowledge and of course motivation to do so. In this sense, we are going to analyze what we can do:

Accept yourself, you are a unique and unrepeatable person. It’s normal to want to show a more desirable version of yourself to others, but it’s not necessary. In fact, it can be counterproductive since our friendliest part is the natural part. Don’t focus on the image that others have of you, focus on how you consider yourself. This helps us to be more authentic and spontaneous.Your worth does not depend on what you compare yourself to. We all have ideals and values, but those do not depend on others. It is important that you work to become better and better, but not to look like or surpass anyone.

One of the most difficult challenges is being us in a world where the majority is trying to pretend to be someone else. Valuing ourselves is costly, but no price is too high for the privilege of being yourself.