Solve uncertainties: dare to face situations and take the bull by the horns

There is a phrase, taking the bull by the horns, which means solving an uncertainty at a stroke. How many people live excited about something and don’t know if they could achieve it? How many, out of fear of facing situations, remain without advancing in the same area as always?

For example, I know many people who have liked someone for years, but since they do not dare to say anything because they think that they will not reciprocate, they continue contacting the person, suffering in silence.

I have known many cases of these. And I have asked them, why do you hold on to pain? If you like a person and you do nothing to find out if the liking is mutual, you will never know the answer, and you will not be able to change your scene and look for other people who are interested in you.

The most extreme case I know of is that of a girl who has been excited about a friend for 10 years. He does not reciprocate her in the way she wants, although he does in a friendly way. This girl is missing out on new opportunities, she often tells me “I don’t like anyone else” and I tell her “but how are you going to have eyes for anyone else if you stay friends with the person you like the most?”

How to take the bull by the horns

To open new doors it is necessary to close others. Therefore, taking the bull by the horns is an act of bravery that has its reward, because you don’t waste a lot of time on things that have no future. It can be painful, since it is not a tasteful dish for anyone to risk and then lose, but it is the only way to move forward.

If you don’t look for what you want, If there is no risk of receiving “noes”, the “yeses” will not arrive either.. Strengthen your self-esteem and dare to face situations, to take the bull by the horns. A rejection is nothing more than a disagreement, we are not all the same, some of us like one thing and others another.

The basketball metaphor

We fear rejection so much that we are not able to take the initiative. When you are able to accept rejection as a normal part of life, more doors will open for you, because you will dare to risk more.

For me a rejection is like shooting a basket and missing the shot. Would you stop playing basketball because you failed to shoot? I guess not, right? Because we know that in every game there are successes and failures and the more you practice shooting, the more you will score.

The same thing happens in life. When you face different situations, you can get a victory or a failure. It is normal, and it should not harm our security, that we cannot get everything we want. What is clear is that The more you dare to try, the more chances you will have of achieving things.

For me It is much worse not to try things for fear of failing than to try and not succeed.. One of people’s biggest fears is proposing to someone. It is a fear that we exaggerate more than necessary, because at the end of the day, nothing happens, two things can happen to you:

May they correspond to you and you can be happy with that person you like. May they not correspond to you and, although it is painful at first, you will be able to turn the page and meet other people to start over. If they have not reciprocated you, your life will remain the same, nothing will change in the environment. You will have won because you will know what to expect and you will not spend time imagining what could have been.

The game of assumptions

There is no crueler game than that of amorous assumptions. I’m sure you’ve all met someone who is excited because they see signs that someone likes them. Assume is nothing more than an imagination that could be unrealTherefore, many people believe that someone corresponds to them and then when they start to tell them something they are very disappointed when they receive a refusal.

This happens because when we like someone, we want to reciprocate so much that anything they do, we see as a sign that could indicate that they like us too. Unconsciously we are in search of some sign that affirms that we are reciprocated.

Any song your crush listens to will make you think that the lyrics have things that match you. A smile towards you will make you feel that he is interested. A certain look will cloud you into thinking they definitely feel the same way, etc…

Thus, There is nothing more reliable than deciding to take the bull by the horns, because this way you will solve the doubts and you won’t waste time assuming things that might not be true. Normally, we put obstacles in our way when starting a project, telling someone new that we are attracted to them, changing cities… But if in a few years you consider that you are going to regret not having made the decision, then, deep down, you have already taken it: take the bull by the horns! Dare to be happy!

Images: Benjamin Lacombe

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