How to choose a partner for life

Is it really so difficult to find a person who fits perfectly into our personal and existential machinery, someone who accompanies us on our wheel of time through happiness and difficulties? It can certainly be difficult, but not impossible.

Sometimes couples come and go, coexistence is never easy, suddenly differences emerge and affection becomes rarer; Distrust appears and loneliness ends up occupying too much space between two people who, despite sharing the same bed, have an entire ocean of distance between them. Why is this happening? Is it really that difficult to choose a partner for life? While it may be complicated, it is not impossible either.

Sometimes we let ourselves be carried away by passion without objectively seeing the person in front of us, we find ourselves with a blindfold on our eyes where it is difficult to objectively analyze other aspects, other dimensions that in essence would bring us closer to the perfect person. Would you like to know what those basic keys are?

1. When choosing, close your eyes.

It is clear that on most occasions we let ourselves be carried away by physical appearance, it is an excellent business card that awakens our attraction instantly. But we must be cautious, daily life and coexistence will need other fundamental pillars with which to enjoy every moment of that day-to-day life as a couple: understanding, care, affection, kindness, sense of humor, ability to listen, empathy… Don’t be carried away by appearance alone.

2. Better mature people, with the ability to learn and listen

Maintaining a relationship with a person who is insecure about himself seriously hinders the continuity of a couple. Insecurity in oneself ends up sometimes being projected onto the other, if I do not value myself, if I have not developed my own skills to stand up for myself, to see myself as capable, confident and with adequate self-esteem, I will not trust my partner either.. I will be afraid that she will leave me and I will distrust her.

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These are undoubtedly aspects that we must take into account. When thinking about a partner who can accompany us every day, and in all the years we have left to live in their good and bad moments, it is always better to find a confident, brave person with a good self-concept.

If they also enjoy learning new things every day, the personal enrichment of the couple will be even greater., because learning allows us to survive and opens new windows for us…. Creative people make life not only easier, but also more stimulating.

3. Who knows how to express, feel, communicate… and laugh

We all know the importance of having a good sense of humor, of knowing how to laugh and relativize situations from a positive perspective full of encouragement. Life is full of complex moments, situations in which it is necessary to have the support of your partner, moments in which knowing how to communicate and feel heard is decisive..

Having the help and support of a person to whom we can open up naturally is essential for our balance and development as a couple.. People who are capable of feeling and expressing feelings, of talking about what hurts them and what makes them happy, what worries them… those are undoubtedly men or women worth finding as a partner.

4. Choose a person with an inner life who shares your hobbies

When talking about inner life we refer to that essential faculty where each of us has our own hobbies, passions, beliefs… a small world of our own where we find our space, personal corners that must be respected in the couple and where we can grow individually.

5. Tolerance

Choosing a partner for life requires, above all, finding that person who allows us to grow with them with harmony and happiness, someone who makes our life bigger and not smaller. Tolerance is therefore essential, that can accept our flaws, our failures and errorspeople with whom dialogue is possible at all times and where fear or mistrust never exists.

Tolerance must be mutualfriends and lovers with enough courage to build a life together and give strength to those roots that form the couple’s tree, where no gale will be able to make it fall over time…