Life letter to emotional maturity

“After some time…

You’ll learn the difference between shaking hands and helping a soul. TO you will catchthat loving does not mean supporting each other and that company does not always mean security. You will start to learn that kisses are not contracts, nor gifts nor promises.

You will begin to accept your defeats with your head held high and your gaze straight ahead, with the grace of a child and not with the sadness of an adult. TO you will catch to build all your paths today, because tomorrow’s terrain is uncertain for your projects and the future has the habit of falling into a void.

After a while…

You’ll learn, which the Sun burns if you expose yourself too much. You will accept that even good people could hurt you sometimes and you will need to forgive them.

You’ll learn that talking can ease the pains of the soul. You will find that it takes years to build trust; and just a few seconds destroy it, and that you too can do things that you will regret for the rest of your life.

You’ll learn that new friendships continue to grow despite distances; and that it doesn’t matter what you have, but who you have in life and that good friends are the family that allow us to choose.

You’ll learn that we don’t have to change friends, if we are willing to accept that friends change. You will notice that you can have a good time with your best friend doing anything; or, simply, nothing, just for the pleasure of enjoying his company.

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You will discover that many times you take lightly the people who matter most to you; Therefore, we must always tell that person that we love them, because we will never be sure when it will be the last time we see them.

As the years go by…

You’ll learn that the circumstances and the environment that surrounds us have an influence on us, but that we are the only ones responsible for what we do.

You will start to learn that we should not compare ourselves with others, except when we want to imitate them to improve. You will discover that it takes a long time to become the person you want to be and that time flies.

You’ll learn that it does not matter where you arrived, but where you are going; and, if you don’t know, any place will do. You’ll learn that if you do not control your actions they control you and that being flexible does not mean being weak or having no personality, because no matter how delicate and fragile a situation is: there are always two sides.

Over time…

You’ll learn that heroes are the people who did what was necessary facing the consequences.

You’ll learn That patience requires a lot of practice. You will discover That sometimes, the person you expect to kick you when you fall may be one of the few to help you up. Maturing has more to do with what you have learned from experience than with the years you have lived.

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You’ll learn that there is much more of your parents in you than you suppose. You’ll learn that you should never tell a child that his dreams are nonsense, because few things are so humiliating. Besides, it would be a tragedy if he believed it, because you would be taking away his hope.

You’ll learn that when you feel anger, you have the right to have it, but that does not give you the right to be cruel.

You will discover That just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with everything they can, because there are people who love us but don’t know how to show it. It is not always enough to be forgiven by someone; Sometimes, you will have to learn to forgive yourself.

You’ll learn that with the same severity with which you judge, you will also be judged and, at times, condemned.

You’ll learn that no matter how many pieces your heart broke into, the world doesn’t stop for you to fix it.

You’ll learn that time is not something you can turn back; Therefore you should cultivate your own garden and decorate your soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

Then, and only then, you will really know what you are able to endure; that you are strong and that you can go much further than you thought, when you thought you couldn’t go any further. Life is really worth it, when you have the courage to face it.”.

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Unknown author

It matters little to whom the authorship of this letter is attributed, since there is no guarantee that it was Borges, Shakespeare or Benedetti. However, what is really relevant is what it gives us, what it teaches us and how it reflects what life teaches us.

I like to say that it is about a letter that life sends to all of us over time. In it, our experiences tell the lessons they intend to teach us so that we judge our history with pride and wisdom.

That’s why, It is a letter full of sincere emotions, painful learnings and words open to interpretation. We all know that we have made each of the mistakes reported here, but have we reflected on them?

This is an invitation to do so, because now is the time. Simply put, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but now is our greatest gift. It is time to free our backs of emotional burdens, we have to live in the present.

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