Is it love or just comfort?

There are people who like to accumulate things. Others accumulate people. Many times, afraid of being alone, we maintain relationships that are already worn out, in which pleasure has long been forgotten. We carry the weight of self-indulgence on our shoulders, closing our eyes to new opportunities. Is it love or just comfort?

How many relationships like this do you have in your life, afraid of the new?

Lack of understanding, companionship, dialogue, respect and trust are factors that can really end a love affair. As time goes by, the feeling is that everything that ever existed is ending. As if the tones of a screen lost their strong colors, due to the accumulation of dust or exposure to the sun. Pure carelessness.

How complacency happens

Many couples stay together but are not satisfied. They end up complaining frequently about the disappointments caused by fights, arguments and distrust.

Unresolved situations are really difficult, but I usually say that nothing is impossible in this life. If we wish with our heart, we end up making the most unusual changes.

Risking your own transformation is the only way to really try to reinvent a love relationship.

When we delve into our weaknesses, we always end up discovering intransigence, pride, arrogance and personal exhaustion. In addition to lack of self-love and dishonesty with yourself.

When we look for an outlet in another relationship to fill the internal emptiness, most of the time we have a strong desire to be right and little desire to be happy.

If one of those involved really decides to assume their own difficulties and eliminates the habit of pointing to the other as the absolute cause of their displeasures, love has a great chance of reviving.

look inside

Give up thinking that the other is always to blame. Look for the necessary changes in your attitudes, in the sincere search for the relationship you want. You will never be able to really change the other if you don’t change yourself first.

You will never be able to really change the other if you don’t change yourself first.

The biggest problem with relationships is that we forget how much we mature, grow, change over time. We must walk together, side by side, according to our own development.

We will never have the same feelings as the beginning, because we are no longer the same. But we can lovingly nurture all the different phases of our lives together. Turning every day into a fresh start.

Allowing yourself to be dependent on someone else is the worst thing we can do to ourselves. If you are waiting for someone to make you happy, you will be endlessly disappointed.

Give love a chance

Happiness does not live on the outside, but on the inside. We all depend solely on ourselves to satisfy ourselves. To deposit this responsibility on the other is dishonest with you and with the other person as well. Every couple that decides to win back ends up finding and strengthening respect, admiration, friendship and love even more.

Give up the old phrases, review your behaviors, thoughts and attitudes. Give yourselves a chance. When one changes, inevitably the other tends to change as well.

With both aware and willing to invest in the years of living together, a new and strong feeling can burn in their hearts. But if he’s already tired and believes there’s no other way, he’s no use insisting. In this case, fill your heart with courage, with love for yourself and for others, take your life in your hands and be happy anyway.

Never settle down, life goes by fast. I know it’s not easy, far from it. After all, recognizing our weaknesses is often sore. But it’s so worth it. With the lesson already learned, in the next moment you can give yourself the opportunity to do everything differently, even if it is in this old worn-out relationship.

It would be good for us to understand that all relationships are made with care, affection, respect, friendship, attention, hugs, transparency, praise and lots of kisses. We must build relationships on qualities. Never accuse.

Always talk only about what and how we feel. Only in this way will we be sure of the truth, as we are only able to speak with certainty about ourselves, never about the other. He who worries about finding the other’s mistakes doesn’t have time for love.

Taking care of our relationships is like taking care of the love we dedicate to ourselves!