How to tell my partner that I don’t want to live with him

First of all, you need to be clear about the main reasons why you don’t want to live with your partner. Think about whether it’s really just the fact that you don’t feel like living together or you think it’s not a good time, or if, on the contrary, there’s something else behind it that doesn’t make you happy. Remember that you must prioritize your well-being and your feelings when it comes to cases such as when you are no longer comfortable or happy.

If it’s because you don’t like sharing your physical space with anyone, it could be because you really think things are fine the way they are. I mean, why risk ruining something that works? At this point you should know that all relationships have phases and that it is normal for your partner to want to move forward, as it is something that is very common in relationships.

Furthermore, you have to analyze if it is the fear of commitment or the progress in the relationship and coexistence that does not let you take that step. If this is your case, we remind you that with fear there is no progress. You cannot be paralyzed by the fact that you risk doing it and then living together doesn’t work out. We assure you that if a relationship does not have to work, it does not matter whether you live together or not, in which case there will not come a point where it will not. So, if it is for fear that coexistence will fail, take the step because it can turn out well. On the other hand, if the fear goes further, such as the fear of commitment, you can talk about it well with your partner and even go to a professional of psychology and/or couples therapy to try to improve in this sense.

If, finally, it is because of some detail that bothers you about your partner and you think you will not be able to overcome it, you have to know that everything has a solution. In this case, we advise you to talk to him or her and find a solution or agreement together.

If you have come to think that you do not want to live with your partner and that you want to tell him or her, we recommend that you follow these tips:

Sincerity above all: Being sincere is the basis of every couple and, in this case, it should be no less. Go with the truth first, sit down with him or her and tell him or her how you feel. Surely he appreciates that you tell him things clearly, even if he doesn’t like the fact, he will think that that is better than being deceived.Don’t leave the conversation halfway: If you know that you will never get to live with him or her, tell him or her. Don’t create false expectations that you know you won’t meet. Then your partner can decide whether they want to continue the relationship or not. And you must bear the consequences of your decision just as your partner respects your decision not to live together.If you think that one day the time will come, tell him: If you feel that it is not the time but that one day the day will come to move in with your partner, tell them that too. In this case we recommend that you go in phases, stay little by little at your partner’s house, spend a few nights there, weekends and normalize the situation. Little by little you will make coexistence easy, almost without realizing it. In fact, you can be clear with him or her by telling him or her that in the future you hope to be prepared, that he or she will give you a little time and that the day will come when you will feel comfortable. But, by doing this you will also be able to check if you will really feel comfortable or if spending a few nights together you are no longer comfortable, something that can indicate that you are not comfortable in the relationship.

If, despite your fears and insecurities, you decide to take the step, we recommend that you take note of the best Keys to living as a couple that we show you in this other unCOMO article. But, also, you must be clear that there is always going back. If at any time you do not feel good about the situation, remember that you can return to the starting point and give yourself a little more time. If you feel uncomfortable living with your partner, your relationship may be seriously damaged. In fact, you will surely be unhappy and you will most likely make him or her unhappy too.

It is also common, especially in cases in which this step has been thought about shortly before taking it, that one day one of the two or both of them think “I no longer want to live with my partner,”I want to separate and I don’t know how to do it” or “I want to separate and I don’t know where to start.” So, really, as we have already told you, the best thing is to think things through and be honest with yourself and your partner and so everything will be easier.

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