How to forget someone you see every day without losing your sanity –

Going out with an office colleague can seem like a very romantic prank. Until the romance ends and a breakup occurs that neither of them knows how to deal with, since they have to see each other daily.

Remember all those times your friends and family warned you that dating an office or classmate was a bad idea? Well. Well they were right. Especially if that someone in the office was your superior or boss, or if that someone in the same class was the teacher.

Dealing with the pain of a breakup in and of itself is complicated. But also having to see that person frequently makes it even worse.

Falling in love with someone we see every day is easy precisely because of the same coexistence. Dating that person seems like a great idea until it’s over. Now they are forced to treat each other frequently and have to act as if nothing were happening.

One of the two may even have the great idea of ​​starting a new relationship with another person who is also part of the daily environment, such as another partner, and then things become really difficult.

But it is not necessary that you go to the extreme of quitting your job, or withdrawing from a course, or abandoning some activity that is part of your life. Getting over someone you see every day is complicated but it is not impossible.

Since physical distance is not possible, it is necessary to create emotional distance. To achieve this, follow these eight tips to the letter:

Steps to get over someone you have to see every day

When you are at home or in the comfort of your close circle, you usually feel comfortable. It helps that the memory of your ex is something you can keep at bay outside your four walls.

Pedro, when you have no alternative and you have to spend at least a couple of hours each day near that person, what can you do to overcome it?

Seeing your ex every day is going to alter your grieving process for the breakup in one way or another. Whether it makes it difficult for you to let go of anger and resentment because that person is reminding you every day.

Or because you can’t let go of good memories and end up clinging to them. It can even be a fairly bipolar combination of love and hate, like a roller coaster that doesn’t let you focus on your activities.

It is a fact that seeing your ex so frequently is not healthy. But sometimes there is no other option. To maintain mental health, try to:

1.- Go through the grieving process privately

There are several facets of grief that one goes through after a breakup. And although in several of them the desire appears to throw a hot cup of coffee in your ex’s face in full view of everyone, that is not the way to go about them.

It is natural that you experience a lot of negative feelings in the grieving process and go through several emotional journeys about everything that went wrong.

In fact, you are allowed to feel hurt, guilty or sad. But avoid doing it at work. It’s unprofessional. After all, risking losing your job is not a good idea. Nowadays jobs are much more difficult to get than relationships.

Read our guide on how to forget someone you love without going crazy

2.- Prepare for the worst

This may sound a little cynical, but imagine what the worst-case scenario is between you and your ex and prepare for it to happen.

That is to say, things will not be smooth sailing, if things are going to get tense, it is best that you already arrive with an emergency plan to get out of it safely. The scenarios that you have to avoid, for your mental well-being and that of your coworkers, are the following:

– You end up alone with your ex in an elevator

– You get into an obvious fight with your ex

– You have passionate outbursts with your ex in the cleaning closet

– You cry for your ex in the middle of a meeting

– You and your ex end up insulting each other all the time

– Your ex starts dating another coworker

– Your ex avoids you at all costs

Thinking about these possible scenarios gives you an idea in advance of how to handle them if they appear. As an additional tip, we recommend that you never fall into the temptation of making up (except with sex included) in the office.

People around you actually realize that you are doing everything but working.

3.- Keep it professional

You don’t want to be the typical person in romantic movies who has a jealous attack at the office and ends up making a scene, or hindering their work or that of others based on their personal life.

When you stay professional at work, your colleagues, your bosses, and even your ex will thank you a lot.

4.- Don’t force people to choose a side

Friends are there to choose sides. Not co-workers, who, whether you like it or not, care pretty little if so-and-so is done. They just want to continue doing their activities in peace.

Besides, you’re not in high school anymore. Avoid generating gossip of any kind or predisposing anyone against your ex.

Your issues are or were just the two of you. Don’t foster a bad work environment and, to the extent you can, continue to behave cordially with your ex.

5.- Don’t try to be too nice

This also looks very forced and fake. If you’re being super nice to your ex just to avoid awkwardness, to pretend nothing happened, or to show him or her that you’re okay.

Most likely, you will only create more discomfort and it will be clear that you are still not over it at all. Treat him like any other coworker, simple as that.

With kindness, cordiality and respect, but without ulterior motives or attempts to pretend anything. If it is best for you to reduce interactions as much as possible and keep them to what is strictly necessary, do so.

Also read how to be a nice and sociable person

6.- Find something to do after work

Most people invest a large part of their time daily at work. This is a big problem when you’re forced to spend all that time within fifty feet of someone you’d probably rather never see again in your life.

That’s why it’s a good idea to find some activity that helps you relax and distract yourself after work.

If you’ve had a frustrating or difficult day, a hobby after work will help you not accumulate all that frustration and end up taking it out on your ex the next day. There are a lot of things you can do. From classic sports activities to joining a book club.

7.- Look for a new job

It may sound a little extreme, but sometimes, when things get really stressful, it doesn’t hurt to start looking for other opportunities to grow personally and professionally.

Maybe you can explore options to simply change areas in the same company. In the event that you have to see your ex at university and sitting as far away from him is not enough, try to talk to the professor so that he can give you some alternative to accredit the course other than going to class daily.

8.- Don’t do it again

Most romantic breakups generate pain, confusion, anger, discomfort, and a very marked tendency to overanalyze everything. This pain can be exacerbated when you have to see that person every day.

The lesson of a first breakup of this type should be enough to understand that it is not a good idea to try again, neither with the same person nor with any other person who is in our daily environment.

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