Don’t tell me you don’t have time, tell me your priorities are different

If someone wants, they will have time. If you don’t have time, it’s because you don’t want to or because you have other priorities that interest you more. So, don’t let them lie to you and don’t fool yourself either. In fact, There will always be a space reserved for a person you want to see.who you intend to talk to or care about: it is the basis of affection and love.

As we grow, life makes it more complicated for us to find those spaces for others or even for those activities that we like so much, mainly because other occupations invade us and steal almost all of the free time we have. However, it is not true that we do not have it: They say that “wanting is power” and, in the case of personal relationships, it is a very important premise.

Attention is not required

It is a natural consequence of the passing of the years that we have to learn to organize the free spaces that other things such as work, children or studies allow us; which is why there are those who claim that Life is an accumulation of priorities and second options.

When we mentally classify our relationships into priorities or options, what we really do is move based on the value we give to one person or another. Therefore, open your eyes as much as you can and, if you realize that they do not give you the value you deserve, do not beg for it: Begging for attention is something that no one deserves.

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If you find yourself in that situation where you feel that you give 100 percent of yourself for something that should be reciprocal and is not, perhaps it is time to see that behind the lack of time there are excuses and little interest. It is usually painful and disappointing, but it is healthier in the long run to resolve that imbalance than to continue maintaining it: at the end of the day The union of two people is a contract, in which giving is rewarding, but receiving is also necessary.

How do I know if he treats me as a priority?

There are some key behaviors that help us realize when they don’t want to share even a small portion of time with us. The motivation of many of them is based on seeing you as a possibility and not as a certainty. Think that you deserve to be a priority plan and not a safe option when initial plans fail.

For example, it has happened to all of us to have a friend, a partner or a family member whom we would include without hesitation in our priorities but who, at a given moment, has begun to sideline us a little. Something may have happened and it is best to talk about it, but it may also be that you have already done it and the lack of interest in maintaining contact or maintaining the relationship gets progressively worse: remember that loving yourself has no calendar.

Freedom is knowing how to choose

When someone takes us as a secondary option, like the plan B that no one likes to be, what they are doing is freely choosing what to share about themselves and with whom to do it and it turns out that that choice It has put us in the background.

Even if it hurts you, you can’t force others to respond to you the way you would like, just like Nor can you sacrifice your dignity and self-esteem at the expense of that person’s selfishness.. Unequal affection will only lead you to a false reality full of hope for a future that is unlikely to ever be present.

You also have that freedom of choice. Choose well who you want in your life and, when you do, it is probably time to think about who has chosen you in theirs: value someone who shows you that they want to be by your side.

It is about cultivating honest relationships that allow us to maintain a balanced self-esteem and allow us to provide feedback on the little things of both of us.. It’s not easy, but the challenges with the best rewards never were.

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