Fall in love with yourself and life, then do it with whoever you want

They made us believe that “great love” only happens once, usually before the age of 30. They didn’t tell us that love is not triggered, nor does it arrive at a certain moment.

We were made to believe that each of us is half of an orange and life only makes sense when we find the other half. They didn’t tell us that we are already born whole, that no one in life deserves to carry on our backs the responsibility of completing what we lack.

They made us think that a formula called “two in one” : two people thinking alike, acting alike, was what worked. They didn’t tell us that this has a name “annulment” and that only by being individuals with their own personalities can we have a healthy relationship. We were made to believe that marriage is obligatory and that untimely desires must be repressed.

They made us believe that the pretty and skinny are more loved. They made us believe that there is only one formula to be happy the same for everyone and those who escape from it are condemned to marginality.

They didn’t tell us that these formulas are wrong, that they frustrate people, they are alienating, and that we can try other alternatives.

Nobody is going to tell us this, each one of us is going to have to discover it alone. And there, when you are very in love with yourself, you will be able to be very happy and you will fall in love with someone.

We live in a world where we hide to make love…although violence is practiced in broad daylight.

John Lennon

We have forgotten our place in the world. We are afraid of not meeting expectations, of not finding the love of our life, of not succeeding, of not achieving goals, of not being born, growing and reproducing.

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In short, we have submitted to what others expect of us. We have reached a point where we do not know how to respect ourselves or work for ourselves. We don’t know how to highlight the wonderful thing that is within us.

You can’t live without you

Learn to say “I love myself” before saying “I love you.” You will strengthen your love.

Remember that without you you can’t do anything. You can’t live, you can’t breathe, you can’t smile, you can’t fall in love… This obvious and simple reasoning hides behind it a premise that should guide our lives: take care of yourself and, if necessary, help others. that they take care of themselves.

That is, we achieve little or nothing by giving our lives, our courage and our daily lives to make others happy. Now, that does not mean that we should not worry about others, but rather that we must strike a balance and not forget the importance of promoting our own personal growth.

The roots of our tree

If love were a tree, the roots would be your self-love. The more you love yourself, the more fruit your love will bear for others and the more sustainable it will be over time.

Walter Riso

Highlighting our self-care above the rest is not going to be easy, but it is worth it. That is, when we talk about love we must all win. For this to happen, we have to take care of our roots by watering our tree, it is the only way for it to become big and strong.

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When your inner Self fails, then everything around you fails. You cannot allow yourself to give everything for others and remain empty or empty inside, because that will cause a feeling of unbearable desolation.

So first fall in love with yourself, take care of yourself and cultivate yourself. Love life to be able to love fully and without excessive attachments. In other words, the objective is for you to cultivate your happiness to be able to give it. If you pamper your tree and take care of it every day, its fruits will grow healthy and full of positive energy.

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