Do you know the secret of success from dating to marriage?

Before starting this post, I want to immediately break the paradigm that “marriage is out of fashion…”. Getting married is good, in fact, it’s VERY GOOD and as proof of that, statistics prove that divorces have been falling since the 1980s.

Even though people keep using the hoax that “50% of marriages end in divorce”, marriages have improved for decades.

Let’s talk in this post about how a lasting relationship, and whether more or less experiences can mean healthier marriages. Or not.

The key to a healthy and lasting relationship is personal growth.

Healthy relationships aren’t complicated, but people are. A lot of the mystique about relationships not working out has to do with focusing on the wrong things. Many people blame external sources for their failures and failures.

The first step to starting a healthy relationship is to take a good look at ourselves. When things are going wrong, it’s all too easy to blame others. In relationships, two halves don’t make a whole. Instead, two whole people complement each other.

Whatever baggage we bring to our relationships will affect their longevity and quality. That’s why a commitment to personal growth is so important. The better we are, the better the people we attract and the better our romances.

This will affect how we bring our dating experiences into marriage. The better the experiences, the greater the chances of success!

Some soft skills that can play a role in a relationship include:

Confidence: The way you feel about yourself will have a direct effect on whoever is in your life. Overcoming shyness, building self-esteem and having a healthy self-image are crucial. Your relationship is less likely to be bad if you are on good terms with YOU.

Empathy: Being able to read people and understand the best way to convey a message is essential. Without these skills, it is difficult to show others how we feel and understand how they feel.

It’s not about having more, it’s about learning wisely.

For the relationship experience to be healthy, we have to be active learners. It’s not enough just to be in a relationship. We have to be conscious observers and turn off autopilot.

Some people learn from experience and improve. Others take bad behaviors as an example and repeat them in the next relationship. One disaster after another. To learn from a healthy relationship, stay away from toxic people.

“One person is different from the other. Some people are ready to find their better half right away; Others need multiple relationships to learn what works and what doesn’t. “-Charlee Brotherton

More relationship experiences can be great if we learn lessons from those relationships. Often these lessons are about ourselves. Learning to communicate, establishing principles, and gaining clarity about who and what you want in a relationship can all contribute to a better marriage.

The key here isn’t necessarily having more relationships, it’s learning from the ones you do have. Some people need to go through more experiences to absorb the same lessons that others needed in just one.

Get ready for a romantic relationship

People make plans for all sorts of things, but they often neglect their personal lives. If you go to a nutritionist, they’ll set you a diet plan, workout schedule, and rest intervals so you get the body you want. If building a better body is worth making an effort, why don’t we make the same effort in our love lives?

Understand the reality of relationships

Many people put their lives on autopilot and make no effort to learn what it takes to have a successful relationship. Recognize the differences between men and women to better understand sexual polarity, attraction, and the different needs of each.

Pay attention to your relationship and build the skills you need to prolong it even further. Be a student of life to get the best results.

SEE ALSO: 3 SIMPLE GESTURES EVERY COUPLE SHOULD USE DAILY FOR A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP

Be patient and wait for the right partner

Don’t settle for anyone. It is often necessary to wait longer than we wanted to find the right person. The biggest mistake we can make is to settle for those who give us some attention. This is needy behavior and will not help us build a strong relationship.

It’s perfectly possible to marry the first person you dated, but more often than not, it’s pure luck. Expand your options so you can choose the one that’s right for you.

Don’t desperately run to the altar

Rushing into a marriage can have numerous negative consequences. First, because it takes years to really get to know someone. Second, waiting a few years can teach you how to manage a relationship.

Dating 2 or more years before getting married leads to a much more stable marriage. This discovery is probably not a surprise, but it should be a warning to those who are eager to get married right away. Don’t despair of getting married before you really get to know the other person.

Commit to personal growth

This is certainly the most important factor of all. It is critical to look to yourself for the causes of any problem.

Not taking full responsibility for our results means jumping from one relationship to another, never getting what we want. After all, wherever you go, there you are, and your problems will be too. Carrying our emotional baggage from one relationship to another is the most efficient way to poison the well.

As you commit to personal growth, you will learn even more about yourself. Being our best friend means that we have even more to offer our ideal partner.

Here are even more tips you can follow to have a healthy relationship:

• 7 characteristics of a healthy relationship. Are you on the right path?
• 8 Things You Should Do Single to Make Your Next Relationship Healthy
• 11 Expectations We Place In Relationships That Are Unfair and Unnecessary