Blockages that Decrease Sexual Appetite |

House to organize, studies, excessive work, care for the husband, children – or any other urgent activity that is part of the demand of a modern woman – can lead to a drop in female libido. This happens because the brain plays an important role in the arousal process. That is, all sensations, stimuli and desires pass through it, which then sends signals to other parts of the body.

For this reason, problems and excessive thoughts end up becoming a great villain for women’s libido, especially those who do not disconnect from these issues to open up to life’s pleasures, as well as sex.

Stimulating concentration to try to disconnect from excessive thoughts is a great start to combat this evil. At the time of sexual intercourse, try to relax and concentrate on every gesture, voice, smell and movement that your partner produces. Just let thoughts flow from this sensation. Let yourself be involved, let go, try to feel love for yourself right now.

The possible causes of this disease

The psychological factors that trigger a decrease in libido can be derived from simple problems, such as the beginning of marriage – a time when some women feel a lot of responsibility or fear – or even the demands of the partner, betrayal or the experience of an unsuccessful delivery, for example. Another possibility is that the decrease in libido is caused by a stronger factor, derived from a trauma at some point in life, such as witnessing a stronger scene or experiencing a sexual relationship with a more aggressive partner.

Each woman may have a different reason that bothers her. This cause may be conscious or unconscious, and may even cause physical changes in the vagina, ranging from muscle tension to even anorgasmia or vaginismus – sexual dysfunctions of psychological causes. Anorgasmia is the name given to the disorder that causes the inability to have an orgasm. Vaginismus, on the other hand, is an involuntary contraction of the muscles of the vagina, making penetration impossible and causing pain in the attempt.

There are still vulvovaginitis, such as candidiasis, for example, which may be responsible for pain during sexual intercourse. They are usually caused by the proliferation of fungi or bacteria in the vaginal flora, which make the vagina very sensitive and can cause pain during penetration, or even cause a decrease in lubrication and a consequent decrease in pleasure.

Sexually Transmitted Diseases and any interference with the urinary tract can also cause discomfort and burning during and after sexual intercourse. According to the Instituto Paulistano de Sexualidade, in the Greater São Paulo region alone, around 360,000 women are unable to have sex, for some psychological reason or physical dysfunction.

Sex doesn’t go with pain

The feeling of pain during sex is an indication that there is something wrong with your physical and/or mental health. Sex brings a discharge of energy, which promotes a feeling of pleasure, well-being and in a relationship it is a fundamental part of a happy union. Therefore, it is necessary to find out the cause and take care of this discomfort.

Pain during sex is called dyspareunia, and it can be caused by a variety of factors, such as thrush, vaginal tumors, bacterial inflammation, and psychological factors. Many women, afraid of the diagnosis or the partner’s shame, fail to seek help and prolong the suffering.

Treatment is usually quick and effective.

The Instituto Paulistano de Sexualidade states that the decrease in libido, as well as pain during sexual intercourse, is a very common problem among women, but there is no need to fear it. Treatment can be done through medication, in the case of infections, inflammations and factors that affect the body in general.

Another possibility is to follow up with a gynecological physiotherapist to treat muscle tension and pain, using specific devices and muscle relaxation maneuvers, performed directly on the vaginal muscles. Depending on each case, the result is usually very quick, ranging from about one month to six months, and libido gradually returns.

Therefore, the decrease in libido is a dysfunction and the person should seek a doctor for the diagnosis, as well as a psychologist and a gynecological physiotherapist. The loss of sensitivity when having sex, when not properly cared for, can lead to low self-esteem and even lead to depression.

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