Are you still happy in your relationship? Know when love becomes toxic

IT IS Valentine’s Day and the mood of romance is everywhere, infecting everyone. Less than those, who, despite being in a relationship, are not happy, much less willing to celebrate. Is this your case? If yes, what causes your discontent?

In case you don’t know the answer, here’s a thought exercise: question yourself about your relationship, think about whether it is good or bad for you, balance its positive and negative aspects. Remembering that a relationship doesn’t have to be perfect all the time, because life is not a margarine commercial and the alternation between moments of greater or lesser happiness is natural.

The problem is when the balance leans more towards the negative side. “UA relationship should bring a predominance of pleasant and positive emotions, if this does not happen, it becomes toxic”, explains the professor Eduardo Calbuccico-creator of Seed Program, of socioemotional skills.

He points out that, first of all, life as a couple requires constant negotiations and a lot of empathy. “And theIt is absolutely essential in a relationship to understand what the other is feeling and thinking. You have to be concerned about your own needs, but also look out for those of others.”

It is from the absence of empathy, in fact, that the relationship can lead to a toxic situation. “Sand we realize that the other can do more and doesn’t, if what we deliver is more than what we receive, that is a first sign”, he explains.

“In general, the responsible for the toxicity has a selfish attitude while the victim is in a fragile position, without their needs met. AND other toxic attitudes are born of selfishness, which encompasses aggressiveness, distancing, non-tolerance….”, he continues.

Ended?

Finding yourself in a toxic relationship is not the same as condemning it to an end. On the contrary, it can be the opportunity to remodel the conviviality. Calbucci explains that, in these moments, it is fundamental to have maturity for conversations that will lead to an agreement.

If that’s not possible, that’s fine too. Maybe it’s time to practice detachment and understand the different stages of each one’s life, however difficult and terrifying that may be.

Regardless of the outcome, it is in clear and frank communication that a healthy relationship is sustained, which serves as a warning. “If a person is afraid to say something to their partner, it is already a sign that they are in a toxic relationship. Pbecause, in a relationship, an environment open to dialogue must be built and that keeps the couple’s communication channel open.🇧🇷

Self knowledge

Need help figuring out whether or not you’re in a relationship that’s still worthwhile? Here are some. But remember that there is no magic formula when it comes to relationships. Reflection is the first step of the journey.

1. Evaluate the situation: is the relationship still good for you?
2. If you notice problems, talk to your partner about what bothers you
3. If necessary, seek a therapist to help them through the difficult phase.
4. Still unhappy? How about going to the next one? Life goes on!

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