A woman who argues is a woman who cares

Believe me: a silent woman is a woman who has stopped loving. Because when a woman is silent it is because she is already packed. Our need to say things, to explode and dramatize is just a way of saying “I’m here, I’m trying, I still love you”. It’s our way of wanting to “fix” things. Because when the silence comes, the will to try is gone.

Sometimes we get a little boring, I know, with those hurt or “I’m going to kill you” eyes. Do you know that look that makes you want to run to the nearest mountain, because you know that something strong and powerful comes from those eyes? This one.

Sometimes it can even be tiring, but is it good for you to spend your days next to a person who doesn’t have or express his opinion? I don’t think so, right?

Making your life hell is not her intention, quite the contrary, what she wants is to make you happy forever. He is trying to make you understand that this concern, this attention to the relationship, goes far beyond a baseless argument.

Putting everything in order and having peace, isn’t that what you want? I bet she also has that purpose, because she listens to your regrets about work and your tiring day, with a look of understanding and with that hug ready to comfort you.

Or do you prefer to have a person by your side who is only present in body and distant mind? A woman has feelings beyond what she says and, when she wants to put everything in its place, it means that love and care for the relationship do exist.

You will need to waste some of your minutes to listen to this “boring” who loves you, this boring woman who, if she didn’t love you, would prefer anything else than to discuss this relationship with you.

We women want to understand: do you men prefer silent mules, who guard everything and one day, out of nowhere, disappear from your life, or someone who talks and lives every moment intensely by your side?

It’s something in our genetics to want to know about things, including what’s bothering you and telling you what’s bothering us too. Quiet woman doesn’t care what the next topic will be or what the next plan will be for the two of you. He wants to know where the exit door is.

Her silence, when it arrives, is that of someone who has found a way to protect themselves and to let go of someone who prefers to visualize the message she sent, pretend not to read it, try to ignore it, waiting for everything to pass and for her her new message is to match the dinner menu, as if nothing had happened before.

If men understood how simple and necessary it is for us women to know what’s going on with them, they would take it as naturally as it is natural for them to discuss the football league leaderboard.

Do not think that every time you deviate from the subject so as not to wear yourself out, she will forget. In fact, she will be thinking to herself “he doesn’t care about our relationship”. And what will she want to do next?

To be interested in another face, another subject, another taste.

Worry only when she is silent, because as long as she speaks, know that she is on your side. Women are beings naturally moved by feelings and reciprocity.

JOCIELE RODRIGUES