5 fatalistic beliefs that paralyze us

Many of us are not aware that We work with deep-rooted fatalistic beliefs. They leak, without knowing how, or at what time, and stay there for years. It seems to us that the normal thing is to see reality as we see it. We rarely question those ideas that, in the end, do not seem to have any basis.

The main problem is that fatalistic beliefs almost always greatly limit our horizons.. They are false ideas, well camouflaged among true facts to deceive us while dictating false conclusions about reality. The worst thing is that they neutralize our will to change to live differently.

The truth is that one by one, propagator by propagator, There are many false beliefs that end up installed in the collective unconscious. On the other hand, there are sectors of culture that support them because, in one way or another, they help explain (falsely) some difficulties in life. These are 5 most widespread.

1. I must blame and punish those who harm me

This is one of the fatalistic beliefs that lead us to infantilize relationships.. They do this because they erroneously start from the idea that in many situations we are passive objects of the actions of others. In this sense, the role of victim can be much more seductive than that of responsible person.

In this sense, many conflicts end in an escalation of violence or damage due to the participation of all those involved, although the degree of responsibility may be different. Additionally, it is common for some or all of those involved to be more concerned with “winning” or occupying the role of “victim” than with resolving the problem. problem itself.

2. Misfortunes originate from external causes and I can’t do anything

This is one of the most common fatalistic beliefs. It consists of assuming that the experiences Negatives come from invisible forces that escape our understanding, control and that have a kind of fixation on us. In other words, this force would also reduce our responsibility and place us in the role of victims… of chance or destiny. On the other hand, if we can’t control what happens to us, why try?

Here again it is assumed that there is no subject, but only an object. The person waives responsibility for his or her actions and also to freedom to direct your life. She explains what happens to her by the action of external forces and with this she is exonerated from examining her own errors.

3. It is easier to avoid problems than to face them

It is as foolish to look for problems as to look for them. There are many social messages that call you to “not complicate things,” to “not get into trouble,” to leave things as they are, as if nothing were happening. This, many times, becomes a call to passivity, to conformism.

The worst of all is that many times not facing problems only complicates them.. Thus, a good confrontation in time can avoid a permanent chain of damage. Putting your head in the sand can be a very costly decision. You stop seeing the problem momentarily, but in the long run the consequences of this attitude can be disastrous.

4. People don’t behave as they should

There are those who choose to explain all the evils in the world and their own as a logical consequence of the actions of others.. They are not as they should be and that is why things do not work in the family, at work, on the planet. This is one of those fatalistic beliefs that contribute very little and, instead, seriously distort the interpretation of reality.

Here again the evasion of responsibility is present. Sometimes attributions that implicate others can be true. What is not true is that those errors or malicious acts are what explain all of our own and others’ ills.

5. It’s horrible when things don’t go the way I want

Fatalistic beliefs often take root in self-centered hearts. It is precisely egocentrism that prevents us from questioning our own convictions. and give rise to the possibility that, eventually, we may be in error. That’s why it’s not uncommon to find people who feel frustrated because things don’t go exactly the way they want.

This is because they assume there is only one way to look at things. Of course, it’s yours. When reality contradicts their desires, they fail to rise above this and broaden their perspective, but rather they deny reality itself.. In this way, they never move forward.

All these fatalistic beliefs They are very harmful because they contribute to creating the idea that it is not us, and our free action, that makes life. Rather, they are aimed at hiding that freedom and autonomy that, with responsibility, we are all capable of achieving.

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