Don’t break yourself into pieces to keep others whole.

We often break ourselves into pieces to keep others whole., for not opening wounds or not letting those that are already open hurt. We do this without realizing it or, at least, without giving it importance.

When we get used to giving without receiving, we end up feeling that dedicating ourselves to ourselves is selfish, but nothing could be further from the truth. Exchange is essential in every relationship and in every person as an emotional being.

When do we break into pieces?

We break into pieces when we give up taking care of ourselves. We break into pieces when we avoid doing what we like. We do not fall apart when we stop cultivating ourselves or when we postpone our interests. We break into pieces when we do not listen to each other or give each other help. We break into pieces. when we prioritize the needs of others and do not attend to our own. When we compete to be “perfect” and stop being ourselves. When we try to please and disguise our reality or our opinion. When we forget our intermediate points and force ourselves to putting the desires of others before our own. When we turn sacrifice into an obligation. When we believe we are bad people because we try to get our heads out, breathe and relieve ourselves from an environment that suffocates us. When we give in to lacerating blackmail that asks us for favors and hinders us. our growth. When we sacrifice our well-being and let ourselves be carried away by the inertia of those who accompany us, thus delaying what we want to do so that others feel good.

Sometimes we must forget what we feel to remember what we deserve

When we do not obtain reciprocity we are being aggressive with the principle of balance that we must maintain in order to remain whole and not fall into pieces.

We must remember that emotional relationships are not a mere interactionbut they require a balanced and satisfactory exchange that compensates our emotional and social balance.

He who gives everything in the first person, who offers himself entirely to others, receives nothing in return and does not work on himself, ends up feeling empty and painful. We cannot put aside our self-esteem to sow the happiness of others, because we will end up being executioners of our own.

Only by playing with that can we cultivate ourselves without neglecting others. That is, keeping the balance balanced, on the same line and under the same intersection.

Giving and receiving are part of the same puzzle. In itself it makes us feel capable of loving and deserving of love and recognition. Based on it we must be able to:

Maintain our rights: There may be something at some point that doesn’t make us feel good or that we simply don’t feel like doing. This is where we must assert our right to have personal space.Cultivate our interests and hobbies: This is the basis of satisfaction, happiness and personal growth. It is important that we do not stop taking care of ourselves and feeding our concerns.

Remember that big changes are always accompanied by a strong shock. Although the change hurts and is uncomfortable, the improvement will make it clear that far from being the end, it is the beginning of a great emotional moment.

Images courtesy of Christian Schloe

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