25 things that happen when you love someone deeply

Falling in love can be a powerful thing. When it happens, it can completely change your life.

In the early days of romance, you act differently, think differently, and sometimes even dress differently.

And actually, there are some differences in what happens to a man when he falls in love, including what happens in his brain.

“Social norms can definitely play a role in how men experience or express falling in love, compared to women, depending on what is socially accepted.”

He mentions Dr. Holly Schiff, a licensed clinical psychologist at the Bustle site.

It’s interesting to look at things from this point of view, especially if you’re trying to figure out why men think and act the way they do.

Read on to find out all about what being in love does to a man, as well as some psychological facts about men in love.

28 things a man feels when he falls in love for real

1) He feels at home when he is with you

You know that feeling when you finally get home, put on your pajamas, and snuggle up on the couch?

Surely you automatically thought of: comfort.

Or when you arrive after a week of travel and finally sleep in your bed?

Well, when a man is deeply in love, that’s the same feeling he gets from being with you: a sense of comfort and belonging.

Everything from the way you smell to how you talk makes him feel instantly relaxed (it’s not hard to see why love can be addictive).

2) He has a need to be there for you

Men, when they truly love a woman, will want to protect her and make sure she is always okay.

Subtle gestures like siding with traffic when you’re crossing the street, or putting his hand on your back when you’re walking in a crowded area, or even arguing with someone who criticizes you, are all great signs that he wants to assume the role of protector.

He is doing this because he loves you deeply and wants you to be safe.

In fact, there is a novel concept in psychology that explains why men are so protective of the woman they love.

It’s called the hero instinct.

Simply put, men thirst for admiration and respect. They want to protect and provide for the woman they love. This is deeply embedded in male biology.

I know it sounds a bit silly. Women today do not need a “hero” to protect them.

But here is the ironic truth. Men still need to feel like heroes. After all, it’s built into their DNA to seek a relationship with a woman who makes them feel like one.

If you want to learn how to activate the hero instinct in your boy you have to watch this free video in English.

James Bauer, psychologist, relationship expert, offers an excellent introduction to this concept. You will learn little things that you can do right now to activate this natural male instinct.

I am not one to easily trust new popular concepts. But if you want your guy to fall in love and stay with you, learning about the hero instinct can make all the difference.

Here is a link to his video in English again.

3) Your judgment is impaired

This is something called positive bias, which plays an important role in nature’s so-called “mating sequence.” And it means that he won’t see or minimize all your flaws (at least at first).

That slightly cloudy judgment, experts say, lasts long enough for us to form a stronger, more lasting bond.

We might think that this is where the famous saying “love is blind” comes from. He will simply feel that you are perfect.

4) Be confident by your side

And in the same way that he wants to take care of you, he feels safe in the relationship.

Loving you deeply and being reciprocated removes all the worry and uncertainty that exists at first when you first meet someone.

You no longer need to constantly reconfirm that all is well and things are on track, you just know.

5) A man in love can feel less pain

Here is an interesting fact about love:

“Love is so powerful that, in laboratory tests, it cuts pain in half”

As quoted on the Bustle site at Dr. Jarred Younger, neuroscientist and associate professor at the University of Alabama, Birmingham. He has done brain research by scanning men and women when they are in love.

“It does this by sending messages to the spinal cord to block pain messages before they reach the brain.”

So in addition to all those beautiful sensations, he feels less pain.

6) It deactivates your fear of social judgment

And just as he may let go of his need to change things that bother him about you, suddenly peer and social pressure become less important to him as well.

You know how it is, a guy introduces a girl to his friends and they’re not very impressed. He could sometimes influence him to the point that he affects her feelings for her.

But when a man truly loves someone, he feels that it doesn’t matter what others think because his mind and heart are already made up.

And especially in the case of a man, this can allow him to let his guard down enough to be “soft” in public. Something that is normally considered feminine and therefore avoided.

That is why your partner will want to hold hands, hang from streetlights and/or shout from the four winds that they are in love.

7) All anxiety disappears

Let’s face it, dating is hard. Even for men. Some may be inveterate womanizers and just looking for something casual.

But there are also a huge number of men out there, who really want to connect with someone on a deeper level.

But now that it has found you, the waiting and uncertainty are no longer there.

He’s no longer gauging whether he should text you, call you, or wait. He just does what he feels and doesn’t need to speculate.

8) It focuses on the problems instead of the person

When you argue, it’s not about who said what or who slammed which door the hardest, it’s just about seeing what the problem is in the first place.

Why does this matter in love?

Well, most arguments between couples arise from miscommunication and misunderstanding.

When he sees the problem instead of you as the “issue” to solve, it will be easier to find solutions. And you will know that he feels love for you since he does not seek to change you.

Also, being deeply in love pushes you to put petty arguments and blame games behind you. Instead he focuses on what matters most: solving the problem quickly.

9) Ex? what ex?

Even if you feel like he’s over his ex, he may still have some memory of her, feel some curiosity, or have the occasional contact on social media (let’s be honest, we all have).

That feeling of curiosity will go overboard when he is in love. He will no longer want to see his ex because his only target will be you: her new love.

And even more important:

If your ex randomly texts you or bumps into him one day, you couldn’t care less. That ship has completely sailed and your ex no longer affects him.

10) He wants to build a future with you

The biggest difference between your current relationship and all the ones before?

He is fully committed to building a future together.

It’s a hard feeling to describe, but when a man is deeply in love, it seems like nothing can stop him, individually or as a couple.

Suddenly things that used to scare you in the past, like living together or buying a house, starting a business, or having a family, feel good.

11) He imagines himself with you for years in the future

And what is the key to building a future together?

It’s being able to imagine being together 5, 10, even 20 years in the future.

At this point, he will know that he has found his ideal person and that the deep love you have will help them achieve all their goals and ambitions together.

12) Making sacrifices for yourself is easy

When a girl likes a man, he will do her favors or even go out of his way to help her.

But when he loves someone deeply, he won’t think twice before putting their happiness or his needs before his: it becomes an unspoken rule that they take care of each other.

And on the other side of that:

There will always be a balance between giving and receiving and the sacrifices that both make.

13) He has nothing to hide

Now for one of my absolute favorites: being able to share everything with your partner and never feel like you have to hide who you are.

From major life decisions to silly thoughts, nothing is off limits to talk about.

It is clear that he feels free with you and knows that you will not judge anything he says: that is the highest form of love.

14) Even if you drive him crazy, he knows that he loves you

Just because he’s very fond of you doesn’t mean he won’t want to pull your hair out from time to time.

After all, he is still human. And surely the same thing happens to you.

But what happens is that he loves you even though you can drive yourself crazy sometimes. Deep down, some of your outbursts even give him tenderness.

And that’s okay, it’s completely normal that you don’t always like the person you love, even the most beloved couples get tired of each other from time to time.

15) He is willing to make changes for you

Another change that a man will experience when he falls deeply in love with a woman will be an incredible need to improve himself and work on his limitations in life.

And it won’t be because he feels inadequate or self-conscious, or because he feels he has to hold me up to your standards.

Instead, you will feel inspired and confident, and any changes you make would stem from a place of love and a desire to be the best you can be.

16) You bring out their best version

And that brings us to the next point: the changes he makes are his way of trying to be better, for you and for himself.

Let’s face it: Falling deeply in love is a phenomenal experience.

And if that doesn’t wake him up and start paying attention to his life, I don’t know what will.

Suddenly, all those things you’ve been putting off doing, or the fears you’ve avoided facing, are no longer impossible to achieve.

Now, he must love himself to keep all this love for you too.

17) He always wants to see you

It doesn’t matter if you’ve spent a week, a day, or a few hours apart, seeing your face again will make him feel warm inside.

Sound corny?

Yes, (bordering on needy, too), but something about being reunited with the one you love makes you feel like you can finally breathe and relax again.

And if that makes you look very excited, well, so be it.

There’s nothing wrong with missing the one you love every time you’re apart, it just shows how strong the connection you share is.

18) Your satisfaction in sex improves

Before falling in love, sex is passionate, lustful, and exciting (or should be, anyway).

And once you fall deeply in love with someone,…