14 signs to know if your long-distance boyfriend is cheating on you –

The most difficult part of long-distance relationships is controlling your jealousy and insecurity due to infidelities.

It is very scary to think that one of the two will cheat on the other because of the separation.

Maybe your partner tells you that he loves you, but something inside tells you that he is unfaithful to you.

Is he cheating on you or do you feel insecure?

From a distance it is difficult to know, so before getting defensive, analyze if your partner fits any of these 14 signs of infidelity from a distance.

1. He changed his behavior or the way he talks to you

Your partner may be busy or distracted and that’s why there are days when he acts strange, distant, or forgets to call you as often as he used to.

But if these changes are maintained permanently, it may be a warning sign. If he no longer writes to you like before, no longer tells you “I love you”, does not ask you about your life or tells you about his own, no longer shows interest or is less affectionate, it is possible that there is another person in his life.

If he also no longer talks about a future together and when you bring up the subject he ignores it, it is possible that he no longer feels comfortable in the relationship.

2. He is always busy now

It is normal that your partner has things to do in the city where he lives. From work to invitations from his new friends, it is common that he cannot always be available to you 24 hours a day. It’s normal, it has its life.

However, if he doesn’t make time to talk to you at any time and there is always something more important than you, it’s because something is up.

Whether he tells you that he spends his time in bars or that he is locked up in the office working, it is not normal that he never has a space in his agenda for you, who are his partner. If you also find out through his social networks that he does go out to entertain himself, this is a bad sign for a long-distance relationship.

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3. He doesn’t answer your calls

Closely related to the previous symptom. You can’t expect your partner to be always connected and always respond to your calls or messages the second you want, but it also can’t be that he never answers the phone.

If he doesn’t answer your calls and doesn’t have a valid excuse to ignore them, maybe it’s time to worry.

By the way, they are not valid excuses that your phone is out of coverage or ran out of battery if the same thing happens to you every day. If his excuse sounds like a lie to you, it probably is.

4. He only has time for you when he’s the one calling.

When you call his phone he can never answer you, but he always sounds relaxed and willing to talk when he is the one who contacts you and calls you when he wants.

If it has become a habit for him to ask you not to call him but to wait for his call, if he tells you that it is better for him to decide when to talk to have time, it is an indication that something is wrong.

Also evaluate their attitude. If when you call he sounds worried and tries to end the conversation as soon as possible, with an impersonal and cold tone, perhaps it is because he is with the other person.

If he no longer calls you from home, his other partner may be with him and that is why he cannot answer you so as not to be discovered. The truth is that both must be willing to take care of each other and be there to support the other when they need it, if not, it is suspicious or at least unfair.

5. He deleted your tags or does not recognize your relationship on the networks

It may be normal for a couple’s interaction to drop on their social networks because they already trust each other and communicate directly. However, when it reaches a point where it seems like they are nothing, it is not a good sign.

It is classic to tag the couple in photos, messages or jokes. If you had this habit and are active on networks, but suddenly your partner stopped communicating with you, set off the alarms. Especially if you untag each other or hide your photos and messages from the public.

If you met someone else and started another relationship at the same time, you don’t want it to be obvious that you already have a girlfriend. That is why attitude on social networks is a good indicator of your partner’s behavior. If he acts like he has something to hide, he is hiding something.

6. He prefers to visit you than for you to visit him

This is the most obvious: this way you will not coincide with his conquest!

He is probably very affectionate with you while you are together, but you only see each other when he travels to visit you or on a trip to places other than where he lives.

He doesn’t let you get to know his city, his new house, new friends and routine. Even if he doesn’t do it obviously with a ban, there are many ways to convince you not to go see him. From telling you that he doesn’t want to bother you, to pleasing you in everything so that you forget the idea of ​​visiting him.

7. You know that he has been unfaithful in previous relationships

If you are with him it is for a reason, you love him and you want to trust that he will be faithful to you. But the truth is that if he already has a history of being unfaithful, chances are he’s just perfected his techniques so he won’t get caught.

Unfortunately, once infidelity becomes a habit, it is difficult to get rid of that behavior. Be suspicious and don’t let yourself be fooled just because you are in love.

8. Mention a particular person frequently

It turns out that every time he talks to you, someone else always comes up when he talks. Whether she tells you an anecdote about what he did, tells you that they went to eat, that he helped her with a procedure, or simply tells you how well they get along.

When a new relationship is being born, even before becoming a couple, it is normal for both to spend a lot of time together and continually think about the other. If he mentions a person to you all the time, perhaps his unconscious is betraying him and making it obvious that there is someone else.

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9. Avoids his friends

If he started dating someone else and has the affair secretly, he will not only ignore you but all of his frequent friends. The more people know about his other relationship, the more risk he runs of being discovered, so he will avoid his frequent circle to keep everything hidden.

10. He doesn’t introduce you to his new friends and colleagues

He hides you. Usually the boyfriend hides the lover and not the official couple. However, as you are her girlfriend, you can’t get her to let you meet her new friends, she never calls you when she is with them and you have no idea about her routine in the city where she lives.

This can occur for several reasons. First, it could be that he’s embarrassed or worried about what you think of his new group of friends. Second, he has another partner who for those friends is “the official one” and that is why you would become the lover.

It could also be that he prefers that no one knows that he has a girlfriend so he can look for a new relationship or win over a girl he has already liked.

11. His stories are too elaborate and you discover lies in him

I had a friend in a long-distance relationship who constantly found lies for his girlfriend. Silly lies, easily revealed.

For example, she once told him that she had not answered her phone because she was in an accident and a few days later, when he asked her how she was doing, she forgot about the accident and told him that it was very good. He began to connect the dots and realized all the times she had forgotten her lies.

When a long-distance couple gets tangled up in anecdotes, it’s because they lied. If your partner tells you one day that he is working extra for a project and days later he goes blank when you ask him, he was probably doing something else and lied to you so he wouldn’t have to talk to you.

Things happen only one way. If he tells you a very elaborate story and then when they return to the topic he gets confused with the names of the people and the dates, there is something wrong.

If Mary told me something, when I tell it to you I’m not going to tell you that it was Joseph. If I tell you that way, it’s because I’m deceiving you or because María didn’t tell me anything and, since I invented it, I changed the character.

12. He gets upset or uncomfortable when you ask him if everything is okay.

If you feel that your relationship is not as usual, the logical thing is to mention your concern to your partner. His normal reaction should be to talk to you, calm you down, and try to explain to you whether something is happening or not.

But if he exaggerates his reaction, feels attacked and seems uncomfortable with your comment, it is because something is happening and he has become nervous. He will probably even try to turn the tables and say that you are paranoid, that you don’t trust him and accuse him. He himself acts as the culprit.

Every thief judged by its condition. He will want to make you feel guilty and will make you believe that you hurt his feelings. All so as not to take responsibility for him.

13. Gives too many explanations

When you ask him about his changes, he over-excuses himself. Even without you accusing or attacking him, he takes all the time in the world to justify himself for everything. Without you asking him about his job, he starts telling you everything about his work problems and ends up changing the subject.

Without realizing it, you end up consoling him for the things that prevented him from talking to you. He may even apologize to you, but then victimize himself with many excuses in his favor. His intention is to distract you and avoid your complaints.

Also read our guide on the signs that your partner is a compulsive liar

14. He constantly criticizes you

No matter what you do to please him, now more than ever he criticizes you for everything. He no longer mind being unsubtle when expressing his criticism to you. He tells you that the way you dress, the way you do your hair bothers him, he talks bad about your family and he doesn’t care about hurting your feelings.

It is likely that he has met someone else that he likes and that is why he compares you. Nothing you do convinces him.

It could also be that he no longer wants to maintain the relationship, but he doesn’t have the courage to tell you directly. Then everything you do irritates him and he decides to treat you badly to push you away, until you are the one who dares to end the relationship directly.

In conclusion

Long distance relationships can be difficult to manage. But contrary to popular belief, not all of them end in infidelity. Cheating has more to do with the nature of the relationship and the personality of those involved than with the geographical proximity of the couple.

Infidelities happen and there is nothing wrong with being prepared. Any change in your partner’s behavior can be an alarm. If not of infidelity, at least of something not making him happy in the relationship.

The important thing is that they have a lot of communication and respect each other. For example, if you both agree to have other partners while you are separated, it is not infidelity because it is an agreement between the couple. Make rules and respect them. It is the best way.

Have you had to deal with infidelity? How did you discover it? We want to read your anecdotes and advice to prevent other girls and boys from going through the same situation. You can also leave us your questions or ask us for advice in our comment box.

Remember to share these warning signs on your social networks. Your friends and acquaintances may be going through a similar situation, so these tips can be very helpful. And if your partner is at a distance, let them know that you are paying attention. Be very careful not to deceive yourself!

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