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Seducing a man can seem like an insurmountable obstacle, especially if you’re not familiar with good flirting and seduction techniques. These techniques will teach you everything you need to know about how to seduce a man and they will be even more successful if used with these flirty messages that will make him fall for you.

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15 Secrets of How to Seduce a Man

1. Make eye contact with him often

One of the things a man is likely to notice about you first is your eyes. Many guys like to look a woman in the eye as soon as they meet her, even before checking out her cleavage or evaluating the rest of her image. eyes can communicate sensuality, mystery and desire without a single word. Use this to your advantage by seducing him with frequent eye contact.

Make sure you look directly at him when he’s talking and at other times when neither of you are talking, and hold your gaze for a second or two longer than is comfortable. This can be difficult at first, but the more you do it, the easier it will become.

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2. Wear clothes that enhance your body

While many men are attracted to provocative clothing as a whole, you can make more of an impact by dressing to flatter your image rather than just dressing to show off your body.

Whether you’re curvy or athletic, wearing clothes that look good on you (no matter how many parts of your body they show or don’t) is a great way to get a guy’s attention. If you want to enhance your bust, wear a dress or top that shows off your cleavage. If your legs are your best feature, wear a short skirt with heels.

But remember to leave something to the imagination about what you wear when seducing him. Showing off all your best features at once can make you look like you’re a “slut” rather than a “seducer.” If you’re showing off your legs, make sure you wear a more conservative top and vice versa.

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3. smile

Guys love it when a woman smiles. A real smile gets a man’s attention and helps him focus on you and only you.

This is especially effective if you’re smiling at something he’s said or done. Fake smiles don’t count, okay?! – most guys can spot them from a mile away. Show your pearly white when talking to him and show that you enjoy his company and a happy person in every way.

4. Ask more personal questions and offer intimate information

Talking about the weather or which team has the best striker will only lead to boredom. When learning how to seduce a man, try to ask more personal questions and offer more intimate information in return when you’re talking to him.

These questions will help you get to know someone better and will be great for bringing them up.

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5. Use your body language to convey your interest

Your body language can show a man that you are interested in him more than anything you say.

Use your body language to your advantage when seducing him and let him know in no uncertain terms that you are into him. In addition to making eye contact and smiling, you can either face him when you’re talking to him or lean a little towards him. If he likes you too, he might start mirroring your body language and leaning towards you in the same way.

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6. Don’t throw yourself at it

Most guys lose interest in women they see as “desperate”.

Throwing yourself at him and showing an exaggerated level of interest (obsessive rather than natural) can have the opposite effect of seducing him. It might even push you away before you have a chance to do anything else. Instead of getting on top of him, show your interest in him in a flirtatious way without being clingy.

7. Play it often

When seducing a man, be sure to touch him often in a subtle way. For example, you can place your hand on his knee briefly while he’s talking, or lean in to whisper in his ear while gently brushing your lips against him.

This is one of the most powerful tools you can use when figuring out how to seduce a man. Make sure that when you touch it, it feels accidental or light. If you touch him constantly or do it unnaturally, he may pull away or feel like you are choking him.

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8. Be alone with him

If you’re with friends, make a point of trying to be alone with him for a few minutes or so.

Suggest going to the bar to order another drink together or challenge him to a game of pool. Being alone with him not only gives you more freedom to flirt and seduce him, it will also help get him in the right frame of mind for whatever you have planned next, without getting distracted.

9. Send him sexy messages

If you have each other’s number, it may be easier to seduce a man with sensual messages and, upon waking, send him seductive good morning phrases. Create your own little private world with him by flirting via text or sending provocative (but not too revealing) photos.

Message him and let him know you’re thinking of him, or send him a picture of you relaxing by the pool. This can help spark your imagination and lead you in the right direction. You may find that this will turn you on too.

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10. Don’t be afraid to be weird

Silences and awkward situations can be one of the most interesting – and effective – ways to provoke sexual tension with a guy.

Instead of trying to fill an awkward silence, let a few seconds pass to create some sexy edginess as you seduce him. You can also create awkward situations by bumping into him as you pass or “accidentally” dropping something in front of him and leaning over to pick it up.

11. Have some fun without him

While this may seem counterintuitive, having fun without the man you’re interested in can have a positive impact on his attraction to you.

When you show a guy that you’re independent and capable of having fun when he’s not around, it says two things: you don’t need him to have fun, and you’re desirable to others too.

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12. Make him work a little, but not too much

Most women know that guys like to chase a woman. However, they don’t want the goal to seem impossible to achieve. Many guys respond well when there’s enough room to chase a girl, while still feeling like the end is within reach. That is, he has a chance with you.

It’s okay to make him work a little for your time or affection when seducing a man to raise his expectation, but don’t make him bend over backwards for little in return. Doing so is more likely to drive him away than attract him.

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Conclusion

In addition to following the tips above, learning how to seduce a man is a matter of experience. As you develop your “game” by seducing new guys, you’ll learn what works and what doesn’t and promote your own flirting style.

By adapting the seduction techniques you’ve found to be very effective and discarding the ones that don’t seem to work so well, you’ll be able to establish a seduction style that is all yours and fundamentally effective. Good luck!

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