You are the best company

Being without a partner tends to be assumed as a failure. This is why many people start relationships out of fear of being alone. What they don’t know is that learning to be alone is the key to personal growth and maintaining healthy relationships.

Do we have to learn to be alone? The answer is clearly yes. But the truth is that they don’t teach us how to do it, and Deep down, almost no one likes loneliness. Faced with family mandates and social pressure, sometimes we feel frustrated and stressed when time passes and we are still without a partner. But don’t forget that you are the best company for you, and that you must learn to live with yourself.

But The worst thing is that wrong decisions are often made., like starting a romantic relationship with someone with whom you are not truly compatible, simply to avoid that loneliness. Or even more terrible, motivated by the fear of “what will they say.”

“Solitude is sometimes the best company, and a short retreat brings a sweet return.”

-John Milton-

Do you need someone else to be better?

We should not see being without a partner as something necessarily negative. This period can be very positive for us as a learning experience and even for the future and our next partner. It is clear that seen this way, the panorama changes. However, many are still upset about not having someone close to them to love and who loves them.

If you can’t learn to be alone, to feel good in solitude, you will likely see not having a partner as a tragedy. But it all depends on how you manage the situation. Learning to be alone is an exercise in introspection that, without a doubt, brings great benefits. What’s more, before having a partner, it is advisable to know how to be with yourself. Thus, we can avoid entering into relationships of attachment and dependency.

If you know how to take advantage, The times when we are alone can be extremely fruitful in terms of personal growth. Really, we must ask ourselves how we are going to be able to live with another if we are not capable of living with ourselves. Therefore, it is important to take the opportunity to read, meditate, travel (if we can). That is, open our minds and investigate ourselves. Get out of our comfort zone and know who we really are.

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Learn to be alone because you are the best company

Instead of desperately looking for a partner, It is better to learn to be alone. Looking for a partner to rush out of loneliness is not a good idea. Furthermore, it could be indicative that we can’t even stand our own company.

When things are done hastily, we can find ourselves in a dependency relationship, where we will hold the other person responsible for our happiness. As the Buddhist nun Tenzin Palmo states: “Attachment says, I love you, therefore I want you to make me happy. Genuine love says, I love you, therefore I want you to be happy.”

“Our great torment in life comes from the fact that we are alone and all our actions and efforts tend to flee from that loneliness.”

-Guy de Maupassant-

Being alone we can find ourselves, becoming aware of our virtues and defects. Thinking about what makes us happy in a romantic relationship. At the end of the day, the reality is that you are never alone, as you think. Learning to be alone, no matter how typical it may sound, is learning to be accompanied, because at the end of the day, we will spend our entire lives with ourselves.

How can you learn to be alone

Next, some ideas to learn to be alone as a starting point to reach a happier and more authentic romantic relationship. These recommendations can help you live more fully now manage frustration:

Activate your adventurous and entrepreneurial spirit and try new things that are outside of what you normally do.Determine what things are important to you. That is, what are your values. Discover what possibilities you have of doing something that is consistent with your scale of values.Do not be so hard on yourself. Lower your level of self-demand a little and learn to accept yourself.Forget about conventions. Know what the limitations and strengths of others are so it won’t be a problem when they don’t act according to your expectations. Try strive to improve every day. Not for anyone else, just for you.Love yourself and pamper yourself. Discover what things cheer you up when you’re down.Learn to meditate and look inside yourself. Know yourself. Look inside yourself. Harmonize with love and compassion.

You are the best company and you can live a full life

You have to live the current moment fully, regardless of whether or not that “better half” will arrive to solve everything in your life. It’s really about directing our efforts inward, improving yourself as a person, moving in the direction of our values.

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Note that Only a full person, satisfied and happy with himself and the life he leads, can build happiness with someone else by his side. That’s why it’s so important to learn to be alone..

In short, remember that you always have yourself, so you have no choice but to learn to be with yourself. Otherwise… you will look outside for what you lack inside and this only leads to attachment and dependency. Without a doubt, the path to suffering. So, reflect and go ahead, don’t be afraid! You are the best company…