Why do we like each other sometimes and not so much other times?

I once read that to be liked by a person you have to do many things and to be disliked you don’t have to do anything. Yes, it is true that there may be people who fail to be liked on many occasions, Some experts believe that it is not a question of genes, but of social skills so fortunately it is possible to learn a little charisma to become more popular if that is our desire.

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But what are the causes that sometimes cause clet’s do well and other times we fall badlyIf we are the same person?

Some experts say that physical appearance can influence when it comes to being liked or disliked., they talk about a basic or primitive instinct in the case of babies. For example, a newborn “laughs and spends more time looking at a pretty face with a friendly expression than a face that is not so pleasant.” So even though it may sound unfair, The handsome ones could initially be liked better than a person who is not so spectacular physically speaking.

Other experts point out that eight seconds is enough to determine if we like a person. They suggest that this is because in just 300 milliseconds (half a second) the image of the individual is recorded in our frontal lobe, which for eight seconds analyzes the traits that, according to our memory, mirror neurons and knowledge, determine whether it is pleasant or No.

Apart from a basic instinct or what our brain analyzes in eight seconds There are other factors that can make us dislike a person from the start, like those people who suddenly start telling about their private life or their problems without showing any interest in getting to know you. There are also those who like to hear positive things and do not like to hear negative things, those who speak badly of third parties, those who only talk about themselves or those who talk all the time without letting others speak.

On the other hand, if we are disliked and cannot be explained by a deficit in our social skills, it may be because we awaken emotions in others. Some physical or psychological aspect, our smile, our way of walking, Our way of gesturing reminds you of someone else with whom you have had a bad experience and extrapolates it to our personality or our overall vision.In that case we only dislike it because it is based on the other person’s emotions due to their experiences with negative memories and it would be something completely foreign to us.

What are the common characteristics of people who are liked?

1. They listen and are interested in the situation of their interlocutor.
2. They know how to converse
3. They appreciate others and give compliments.
4. They do not criticize others and do not complain.
5. They smile more and appear close and affectionate
6. They value opinions, accept advice and recognize their own mistakes
7. They know how to ask for favors and how to thank.

Some tips to increase our popularity in a new group

-One has to take care of the gestures: smile and not tense your facial features (tense lips, clenched teeth and a rigid jaw produce rejection). People unconsciously analyze non-verbal language, since it provides us with more information than verbal language.

–Practice active listening: Let others speak and listen to them with interest, trying to understand how they feel and how they can be helped. If you disagree with something, express it assertively.

–Use humor if the occasion allows it: The act of joking can act like a magnet in personal relationships. But it is important not to abuse it.
Be tolerant: one way to make yourself loved is to accept each person as they are, without prejudice. It is a matter of respect.

–When you meet someone new you have to make sure you remember their name and repeat it several times throughout the conversation. People find it nice to hear their name during a good talk.

–And remember if someone doesn’t like you, it’s not the end of the world, we can’t like everyone. Although we are exceptional beings and behave as such, there will always be someone who finds some “but” in our way of being and acting. The best thing in these cases is to accept it and live with it and if someone doesn’t like you I’m sure there will be at least 99 other people who find your company pleasant!
Lastly, be yourself if you look good, others will see you well.