Why do people fall in love?

It is said that everything starts at the beginning… I couldn’t agree more! Everything starts from nothing, from nothing physical and from nothing emotional. Out of nowhere in expectations and commitments. Out of nowhere, nowhere, at any time, of unique and singular moments. From moment to moment, from nothing to nothing, from place to place…

That said, I ask myself: what makes us fall in love with someone? Mysterious mystery and no obvious answer! If it were obvious, these times of infatuation wouldn’t be so irrational. It’s not just because that person is like this or that, it’s not just because she’s beautiful, it’s not just because she seems to have that detail that we like the most.

It is not because of having this or that physical attribute. It’s not because you know how to talk, it’s not because you’ve already lived life more or less intensely. It’s not enough to be smart, as much as everyone admires that. It has to have that and something more… I would say that something more is the way of being. We fall in love with exactly the way a person is.

It’s not because the person laughs more or less loudly, speaks more or less loudly, it’s not because they have blue, green or brown eyes. It’s her way of saying something out loud as if we were the one doing it; it’s her way of moving her hair, slowly and sensually. It’s the way to walk. The way to wear the shirt outside the pants, or the way it is produced in each special moment. It’s her elegance. No matter what outfit she wears, she will always look perfectly beautiful. The way you run your hands through your hair. The way to laugh or smile. It’s the way of touching, of looking… Its beauty makes us dependent on those physical emotions that the other provokes in us. Her voice provokes us, her gaze melts us. The mysterious and sometimes energetic air surprises us. We surrender to the desire to unravel each mystery.

It’s the facial details, the way the eyes sparkle, the unusual way we think he moves, and that makes us lose our cool. And at the exact moment these bodies meet, a tune is generated that makes us go crazy, that makes your mind melt and your heart have moments of acceleration and deceleration, interspersed by total ecstasies. At these times, breathing is no longer fun, we really want to lose our breath. And in the midst of this loss of breath, we surrender to the evidence that physics is the sensible way forward. When it’s cold, we know where to keep warm. When we are melancholy, we know where to rejoice. Exactly in that hug and in that look. When we feel alone, we know who we want to talk to. When we are energetic, we know exactly who we want to get tired of.

And no matter how long we’ve known each other, when the attunement is awakened, the will tends to increase more and more. At that time, it’s no use trying to keep calm, desire devours us and surrender happens… And that’s exactly why we fall in love! I say…

André Sousa