Why do I get so angry with my partner – know the reasons

One of the main reasons that answers your question of “Why do I get so angry with my partner?“It may be because there is issues that occurred in your partner’s past that were not resolved completely. When a couple had a fight for serious reasons (such as cheating or infidelity) a long time ago and did not talk enough for everything to be resolved, it is quite common for the things that they did not get to say at that particular moment remain saved and Therefore, a bit of resentment towards the couple is created.

Therefore, that resentment that accumulates day after day and every time your partner irritates you for any slight clumsiness he may have, the things that hurt you come to the surface in the form of anger or argument.

If you think that this may be your case because you did not finish clarifying an infidelity problem, we recommend that you read this other unCOMO article in which we talk about How to forgive an infidelity.

Another reason why your partner constantly irritates you it could be because you both have a fairly dominant character. These types of strong and similar personalities can cause, little by little, a kind of “power struggle” to form between you and your partner.

Due to this, the tension between the two grows progressively until the personality clash explodes and a situation arises in which you frequently have couple arguments because each one thinks they are right and the other is wrong even when choosing one product or another, for example.

In this type of situation, both he/she and you should learn to listen and approach your positions, since otherwise, your relationship will surely end up broken by your own ego. This other article may also help you in the moments in which you debate or discuss something with both of you having a strong character, because in it we tell you the keys to How to argue with my partner without losing control.

A very common mistake when we like a person is to idealize them so much that, finally, we end up falling in love with a projection of our partner. The problem of idealize a person is that we created a series of totally false expectations that with the passage of time, they will be frustrated by reality.

That is, your boyfriend/girlfriend has always had the same personality, the same defects and the same virtues. However, you will realize little by little that what you fell in love was with your own romantic expectationsso when reality presents itself before you, you will surely become unjustifiably angry with that person for everything he or she does or says due to the feelings of disappointment and frustration that you have inside.

Among the reasons that respond to the doubt that has arisen in you as to why I get so angry with my partner, there may be the possibility that you don’t feel good about other aspects of your life (such as work or family) and you’re taking out all that anger and frustration on your partner. It is normal that when we are not feeling well due to a bad situation at work or a family argument, we find ourselves more irritable and frustrated. However, we have to try not to pay it to the rest of the people, since they are not to blame for that situation.

If this is the reason why you get so angry with your partner, you could try, instead of getting angry and taking it out on him/her, tell him/her what’s happening to you and explain how you feel about other aspects of your life. In addition to not pushing that person away, you will be able to let off steam and feel much better.

In addition to the situations that we have explained above, there are other reasons why you get very angry with your boyfriend or girlfriend:

You don’t manage your emotions well: If, for example, you feel irrationally jealous and get angry with your partner for something he or she has not done, it is because you do not know how to control your feelings.There’s no communication: Many arguments between couples originate precisely because we do not know how to express ourselves well. It is important that we try to have assertive communication, that is, without reproaches or insults. Here we tell you how to improve your couple’s communication.You take some things for granted: Surely more than once, you have noticed your partner being more strange than normal or during a conversation he has not explained himself completely well and you have already assumed that he is angry with you or has said things to you in a harmful way. Before drawing your own conclusions, talk to your partner and ask them about this topic.

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