Who really wants to find a way. If you don’t want to, find an excuse.

“I even want to, believe me, but we are in very different timings”, Pinocchio said to my friend before disappearing, running away to the single life.

“Very different timings”? Seriously, is there anyone who still has the courage to make these excuses? Because, to me, that’s just a huge lame excuse.

While some people live making excuses like “we have different life goals” or “I live far away from you”, other people who really want to be with someone look for ways to make things happen and work out. And they find them, believe me. Because for those who really want it, nothing is impossible.

Nobody tells me that they ended a relationship to dedicate more time to their studies or that they had to choose between the loved one and the work, because it’s not true. They are excuses. That person ended up essentially because he no longer wanted to be with the other person. The rest are excuses people make up to deceive others – and deceive themselves!

When there is really a genuine desire to be with someone and for things to work out, there are few distances, professional demands, psychopathic ex-boyfriends or differences capable of making a relationship unviable. The opposite also happens: when there is no will, or when it gets lost in the midst of monotony and routine, any small disagreement – ​​be it even in the minefield of politics or football – already seems an irrefutable reason and strong enough to say “No more… it’s over. Good luck”.

You know that person who is always saying that he is missing you, but that never – not even on holidays or long weekends – gets to meet you? you know? The truth is, that person isn’t into you, sorry for the sincerity. Or do you really think that person, if they were interested in spending time with you, wouldn’t have found a way to spend some time with you, even if it was just a few minutes? Of course yes. Did she say she didn’t stop by because of work? Red alert! Sorry lame detected! There are no insurmountable difficulties for someone who is truly willing to fight for someone. Those who really want to find a way to make things happen. in what way? He sleeps less, travels great distances, wakes up early, if necessary, even does the impossible, like having a clone of himself made. Because? Because wanting is power. Do you understand?

Who really wants to find a way. If you don’t want to, find an excuse.

Ricardo Coiro