When you don’t expect anything… everything comes

Sometimes in life it’s about doing the best you can with yourself and others, without expecting anything in return. That is, do it out of a moral conviction and because your values dictate it. The art of living in peace is to act and let everything come, let the facts speak for you, instead of your words

“When you don’t expect anything Everything comes“. Have you ever heard it? It is curious to analyze the simple realities that are usually hidden in these phrases or expressions of popular psychology. It is possible that more than one person thinks that “expecting nothing” may contain some defeatist attitude, of someone who lets himself be carried away by the strings of others and by the force of circumstances. Nothing is further from reality.

Not expecting anything and allowing things to come is to act with balance, openness and inner permissiveness. Look at life calmly, deactivating fears, selfishness and negative ideas that put obstacles in my path. My mind is open to any window. I don’t expect anything and I expect everything, because in the end, Everything comes.

On a day-to-day basis and even if it seems otherwise, we tend to accumulate many attitudes and limiting thoughts . We do it almost without realizing it… “I almost don’t propose this to him because he’s going to say no.” “I’d better try it another day because I’m sure I’ll fail”, “Those things never turn out well for me, so to have a bad time I’d better not try…“

Sometimes, we ourselves are the architects of those walls that prevent things from arriving. We must be open, open in mind and heart: we teach you how to get it.

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Deactivating limiting attitudes: everything comes

We will start by giving you a little reflection: If we are not aware of our own limiting attitudes, we will never be able to tear down those walls that prevent us from achieving things. To do this, to realize many of those things that we have “lodged” inside us, and that cut off our wings of growth and part of our happiness, We must understand where limiting attitudes come from:

Our education

A good part of who we are now has its roots in those early stages in which we built the bond with our parents, grandparents and siblings. If they did not offer us security, if they criticized our thoughts and ideas, if they overprotected us or did not show us any affection, etc.

It is very possible that as you matured, you tried to change many of those limiting attitudes in yourself. That you dared to do what they said you would never do, that you have moved forward with sure steps, turning your face to past wounds.

The echoes of a traumatic childhood tend to limit us in many ways. Don’t allow it, never stop trusting others, and even less so Everything comes. That good things can happen.

Negative experiences not managed appropriately

If you have been abandoned by your partner, never make the mistake of thinking that you do not deserve to be loved. Face grief with integrity, move forward being resilient and open your hopes to life, daring again to love and let yourself be loved.

Allow ourselves to expect nothing, dreaming everything

The attitude is not to expect nothing at all. But It’s about restructuring our attitude a little towards life, towards ourselves, allowing things to happen. We explain how:

Avoid “tunnel vision”

We have all experienced it at some point, they are those moments when we focus on something specific, at the same time losing the ability to see what is happening around us.

You may have those days when you think that nothing has a solution, that things “are as they are” and that there is no other remedy other than the inevitable. Deactivate those thoughts. Nor is it necessary to praise a “blind positivism” that creates false hopes in us. Take a breath and let yourself go, Don’t expect anything but keep an open mind looking at everything that surrounds you. Let yourself go with hope and peace of mind.

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Put aside what you feel and think about what you need

Sometimes, feelings blind us or hold us down. There are times when love, for example, even causing us unhappiness, chains us to that relationship from which we do not want to “detach ourselves.”

Instead of feeling, ask yourself what you need. Do you need freedom? Do you need to be yourself? Then allow yourself to be happy again. In the end, Everything comes.

In conclusion, our attitude towards life should always be open, calm and secure. As long as you know what your priorities are on a day-to-day basis, things will happen as they should. Go at your own pace, do your best. Also, letting things happen is the best thing we can do for ourselves. As Confucius says (cited in Jaspers, 2001): “demand a lot from yourself and expect little from others. This way you will save yourself trouble.” That phrase can also be applied to the events that occur in life.