What other people think of you is their reality, not yours.

What other people think of you is their reality, not yours. They know your name, but not your story, they have not lived in your skin, nor have they worn your shoes. The only thing that others know about you is what you have told them or what they have been able to intuit, but they do not know your angels or your demons.

It is often difficult for us to understand ourselves but we bravely venture to decipher the code of other people’s feelings. You cannot have any type of certainty about what others feel. In the same way, we cannot know what they have experienced and what they have learned or not.

Therefore, We should not give importance to what others say about usbecause his words obey an illusory reality that his mind has created with the desire to know everything about our life…

People who criticize

There are people who give their opinion about you, your life and your decisions, even if no one has asked them. They tend to be malicious opinions or opinions lacking any criteria whose sole objective is to harm, belittle and enjoy the sorrow of others.

Generally, they are people with low self-esteem who do not accept themselves, so they can hardly accept others. These people put labels that reflect the reality of how they feel themselves, thus projecting their emotional difficulties.

How to deal with a person who criticizes all the time

Next, we will give you some recommendations to deal with a critical person.

Don’t take negativity personally. Remember that it’s not about you. If a person is generally critical, he or she is likely to complain about anyone. When you are criticized, try to calm down and remember not to take it personally.Try to understand its message. Some people who criticize can be misunderstood. They may be trying to give good advice but it comes out negative due to their lack of tact. Take some time to reflect on what they have told you.Don’t argue. It is almost always a bad idea to argue with a critical person. If someone is too critical, he does not want to resolve a conflict. They just want to complain. Even if it’s difficult, try to resist arguing.Ignore. Sometimes the best way to deal with overly judgmental people is to learn to ignore them. For a critical person, complaining and nitpicking is simply a way of life. Learn to ignore it.Have compassion. If someone criticizes you frequently, have some compassion. Understand that you only have to deal with a judgmental person at the moment, while they have to deal with themselves all the time.Make yourself worth it. You can’t take criticism indefinitely. Criticism can reach a point where it is no longer tolerable. Be firm, but also kind. Express your concern in simple, concrete terms, and define your limits.Provide some honest feedback. One way to deal with highly critical people is to give them feedback. Some people are simply inefficient at communicating with others. They may not understand how to help without seeming critical or condescending.

We are the only ones who can walk our path

It is likely that if we could get into the bodies and minds of others, we would not dare to judge. However, it would be worth the offer to appreciate our bravery. It would be a real test by fire.

Fantasies aside, we must assume the sole responsibility of valuing ourselves and stopping condemning ourselves. What others think of us does not put a price on us. That is, in the same way that we do not let others tell us what clothes we should wear or how we should dress, we do not have to allow others to choose our emotional wardrobe.

If we live according to what others think of us, we will lose our style and our personality. We will be forced to put on a mask and our image in the mirror will only reflect our insecurity and the lack of healthy self-esteem.

Heal the part of us damaged by criticism

To heal the emotional wounds caused by criticism, we must be clear, first of all, that we are unique and exceptional people. According to this, we must lose the fear of feeling and thinking for ourselves.

It is others who are judging and criticizing, not you. Non-constructive criticism carries with it great emotional poverty in the internal world of the person who performs it. Therefore, if the person does not allow himself to be enriched, on these occasions it is convenient for you to be emotionally selfish and “Let each stick hold its candle.”

So, get rid of negativity and think that your life is much easier without getting into the lives of others. We give you some keys to claim yourself:

As we have mentioned, the direct consequence of giving credence to what others think and say is that we end up becoming someone we are not. And, of course, wanting to please others at the expense of our identity is not healthy at all. Are you a good mother? Are you a successful person? You’re smart? Do you do your job well? Do others like you? Realize all the energy you waste worrying about these issues.Anyway, Others think about us much less than we think. That is, we tend to feel like the center of attention from other people when, in reality, what we do may not be relevant to many of those around us. Get rid of that fear, it’s largely a product of your imagination.No matter what you do or how you do it, there will always be someone who will misunderstand it. So try to live and act naturally. What you do because you feel it will always be the right thing. Not only will you not be able to justify yourself, but you will feel false if you are not in tune with yourself.

Finally, remember that what other people think of you is their reality, not yours. Don’t let others define your path, much less end up telling you what you are or should be. Live, act and enjoy yourself naturally, tuning in to the beats of your heart, those that call you to be what you really are.

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