What to do when the ex shows up wanting sex?

You’re on your own, getting on with life. suddenly your ex reappears wanting to see you. You keep thinking that a friendship may arise or even a return between you, but his interest is different. What to do when the ex shows up just wanting sex?

Is it worth embarking on? Depending on what you lived together and your emotional involvement, it is important to reflect on the day after, that is, how you will feel the day after this casual sexual intercourse, but with someone important, someone you’ve felt a more intense feeling with. Making that decision consciously, with self-love can it happen?

Next, I bring some points that are important to be thought about when taking action on this subject.

The damage of expectations

Most of the time, when we learn that the ex is trying to get back together, we start to believe that he wants to get back together. This creates expectations that the ex has changed, that now it will be different, and the cold shower usually hits us hard: he just wants sex, nothing else.

What do you mean, after so much involvement, so many dreams created together? This type of questioning is very common. Is the probability of suffering great? It might be.

There is a contrast between who you would like the person to be and who they really are. The ex’s conduct can even disappoint you once again, because it really hurts.

Can you really separate sex from feeling? Can you also separate reality from the expectation that ends up arising in the interim in which it arises?

How to react to the proposal of sex with ex?

First, it is essential to learn to respect your own will and understand what it is about, what your ex’s proposal is about you.

There are people who deal well with relationships based only on sex, but when there are unresolved problems, including hurt feelings and hope that the relationship will improve, it can be a path of suffering to return to the ex with whom the relationship cannot evolve into a commitment.

Not everyone needs to feel so modern to the point of having to accept proposals to have sex with someone, not least because this type of conduct is not always valid because it brings sentimental involvement, which the other does not always have to offer and you can end up getting bad with yourself and thinking it’s the other’s fault.

But is it really the other who deceives you or is it you who is going down a path of illusions about the other since the other has already shown you who he really is?

But what about the shortage?

Neediness can make you try to see the possibility of a happy relationship with someone you are not willing to have, especially when you have an affective responsibility with anyone, or at least, not with you.

So, think if it’s worth it, if it’s the most you can expect to receive from someone, if you’re really in a moment where the exchange of affection only during sex is what you want to experience.

The answer is not always evident, people do not always like to be true to themselves or manage to see a gap in their self-esteem to the point of understanding that they build relationships based only on sex because they feel they are following the wave of modernity, but they end up getting worse and worse with themselves.

Neediness actually blinds people similar to passion. So, even if you get excited, maybe it’s time to think before you act and find out if this is exactly what you want?